There’s lots happening on Purim – places to be, things to do, messes to clean, and whatever else. It takes coordination and planning to get it all done with the least stress. And a good attitude when things still don’t work according to plan. Talk it out. Plan who does what and when. Get it […]
Work together to create a realistic plan for Purim. Read More »
Purim is a time for family memories. Whether you intentionally set out to create memories or not, people will remember the holidays. Maybe not every detail, but definitely the vibe. What memories are you creating? Happy and joyful? Stressed? Giving and generous? Drunkenness? Family time? Plan your Purim to create meaningful and happy memories.
What kind of Purim memories will you be creating this Purim? Read More »
Studies show that such sharing is good for both – beyond the effect of the event itself. It is linked to greater feelings of trust, intimacy and satisfaction in the relationship. The effect is even more pronounced when the listener celebrates enthusiastically and doesn’t focus on the potential concerns. “They love my work and want
Share your highlights and good news. Allow your spouse to celebrate with you. Read More »
You can not be able control all the rude or dumb things people say and do. You can decide not to be distracted or controlled by them. You can’t control what others think of you. Even if you follow all of the “rules” and do everything “right”, how others respond to you is outside of
People say inappropriate things, leave that on them. Read More »
Disagreements are inevitable. But, there’s definitely a wrong way and a right way to present your own arguments.–Focus on facts and don’t make it personal. A respectful disagreement is one that prioritizes logic over your opinions and emotions about the situation. Staying to facts makes it clear that it isn’t personal. Focus on illustrating why
You don’t have to agree on everything, but you have to be respectful. Read More »
Consistently fan the sparks of positive feelings about your spouse. When a couple makes a full and conscious effort to notice things they like about each other and then express those out loud to each other, their relationship is enriched. Constantly look out for things that your spouse is getting right or doing well. Try
Look out for positives in your spouse. Read More »
Within every complaint, there is a request. It is important to be able to discern that request and not get caught up in the noise around it. Focus your energy on hearing what your partner is saying, or trying to say, and respond to that need.• A complaint about the garbage might really be about
Complaints are really a need or longing that is not happening. Read More »
We know that unreasonable expectations or the thoughts that expectations are not being met can lead to insecure feelings on the part of both of the couple. These can topple the relationship. It is also important to recognize that sometimes even reasonable expectations may not be met. It’s life and things happen. Your spouse may
Sometimes, even reasonable expectations may not be met. Read More »
Asking questions: The right questions can empower you. The wrong ones drag you down. “Why can’t I bring myself to do what I need to move forward?” Such a question is disempowering and will drag you down. Flip the question to a more positive one. “In what ways am I courageous?” Questions compel us to
Asking the right questions can empower you. Read More »
Letting go isn’t so much about courage to release the past. It is about having the wisdom and strength to embrace the present. There is a subtle but huge difference between giving up and letting go. It’s all in the mindset, the feelings about it and the intention. Letting go is a release of whatever
Letting go is putting the past in the past – where it actually is anyway. Read More »
