You’ll miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t get you where you want to go. Most of the time you just have to go for it Either you will succeed or you will learn something. Win-Win. […]
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It started off as a difference of perspective and somehow moved beyond a civil conversation and into a fight. Somehow, you both ended up saying things that are regrettable. Get back to loving and caring as quickly as possible. To do that, apologize for your role in the fight. Even if you were ‘totally right’,
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“It’s not what someone said, it’s what you’ve heard.” You have the power to interpret someone’s words. The other person said some words. It’s you who gives meaning to those words. You can take those words to heart, disregard them, laugh at them, learn from them, get outraged or provoked… It’s really up to you.
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It’s not what you say, it is how it is heard. People take in messages based on their previous experiences. Some words might trigger a reaction. You might have said something that hit on a nerve or sensitivity. Some words have connotations to someone that you may not even realize. If someone has an adverse
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“Tact is the art of making a point without making an enemy.” – Isaac Newton Tact is the ability to deliver a difficult message in a way that considers other people’s feelings and their reactions. This takes sensitivity, understanding and flexibility. Acting with tact means that you notice the circumstance and adjust the message accordingly.
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Our views are based on our values, standards, ethics, commitments, dreams, passions, etc. When someone shares their perspectives or opinions, they are showing something about themselves – what is important to them, what they value. When someone is expressing their opinion, instead of asking yourself the question, “Do I agree or disagree?” asked yourself “What
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Sometimes, when there is conflict, the conversation doesn’t go as well as we would like. Emotions may be getting in the way. The timing may be off. You can say, “This is important. I want to talk about it. Not this way.” As possible, take a break from the conversation and pick it up when
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“Sometimes we say ‘I can’t, I’m unable’. What we really mean is, ‘I won’t, I’m unwilling’. The secret to success is knowing the difference between the two.”-The Baal Shem Tov Let’s look at this from the context of an anxiety-ridden action, like asking for a raise. We may say, ” I can’t do it.” It’s
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Nagging is “See what you are not?” Support is “Look at all you can be.” In both cases, you want to help your spouse to become a better version of themselves. It’s your mindset and the words that come from that mindset that makes all the difference. Nagging comes from the mindset that you don’t
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Many people don’t ask for help because they don’t want to come across as needy or not fully in control. They have attached a negative judgment to needing and asking for help. What follows is that you judge someone to whom you offer help. In other words, if you feel superior or gain some level
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