When you reach out to friends or others for support for something in your marriage, be very careful who you choose to talk to. And how you share what is going on. Your role is to describe it OBJECTIVELY as you can. For your sake. For the sake of your marriage. Many times, in the […]
To get useful support from friends, share as objectively as possible. Read More »
Your body sensations tell you what is going on for you. Different emotions are felt differently in your body. Think about how your body feels when you are anxious and when you calm. Scientists have researched and created HeatMaps that show where in the body different emotions are felt. Love is felt as warmth all
Pay attention to your body. It tells you about your feelings. Read More »
Successful marriages have two qualities in common even though the marriages themselves are as diverse as the couples in them: acceptance and faith. The honeymoon ends when the spouse in question (always the other spouse) does something thoroughly inexplicable and totally at odds with the logic of the judging spouse. Something that (try as they
Acceptance and faith. Keys for marriage. Read More »
On Shavuos, the anniversary of our ‘marriage to Hashem’, we renew and reenergize our relationship with Hashem and the Torah. When we first received the Torah, we declared “We will do and we will listen (to understand).” We committed ourselves to the relationship. Unconditionally. The same concept applies to our marriage with our spouse: We
Doing for your spouse. Listening to your spouse. Read More »
(According to the sages, Matan Torah is closely associated with the number 3. see more below) There’s a He and a She in every marriage. Two separate entities creating a third entity – the We – the unity, the marriage. What truly makes them a unit is not renouncing one’s self or losing one’s identity
3 entities in the marriage. He. She. We. Read More »
The Torah was given on Mt. Sinai, a low mountain. The lowness teaches us the importance of humility. The fact that it was a mountain and not flatlands or a valley teaches us to have pride – not arrogance – and self-assuredness. Both, in tandem, are important for a productive Torah life, as well as
Mt. Sinai. Humble. Proud. Read More »
When someone hears, “What do you have planned for tomorrow?” they are probably thinking “what is it that you are really asking?” Eventually you are going to come out with the real question, you may as well get to it from the very beginning, and avoid the ambiguity and discomfort. –>”I’m thinking that tomorrow, I’d
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Literal Definition: Kingship In Other Words: Leadership. Nobility. Aristocracy. Dignity. Authority, Power. Royalty. EXPRESSIONS of Malchus – Malchus is about being a leader – in words, behavior and attitude – in your personal life and in everything you do. – Living a life of actualizing goals and plans. Keeping the best interest of others as
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It may very well not be your preferred way of doing things or hearing words or saying something. But it is your spouse’s. So do it. Say it. Just because they would like it. You may not like words of affection. But your spouse wants that. So say it. You may not need compliments or
Say it. Do it. Just because your spouse would like it. Read More »
We all have those times that something we did or said didn’t come out quite as we intended. Or the words or actions triggered a bad memory in the other. You wouldn’t want your spouse to resent the statement or action. Or feel hurt by it. You would much rather know about it so you
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