When you say, “I’m sorry. OK, so I’m not a good (enough) husband/wife,” or throw out phrases like “I’m so pathetic” or “You deserve better than this,” it doesn’t feel like a real apology to me. It feels like you’re deflecting. Honestly, it seems like you’re sidestepping the hurt I’m feeling. Those self-pitying apologies don’t […]
“‘I’m sorry; I am just pathetic’ isn’t the apology I need.” Read More »
“If it bothers you, it matters to me” or “I know we are each in charge of our own feelings, but yours matter to me.” These phrases are powerful in relationships because they validate your partner’s emotions and show empathy, even when you don’t fully understand or share their feelings. By acknowledging their experience, you
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Blaming someone rarely leads to accountability or real change. Why? Because blame makes people defensive. Instead of feeling accountable, they start looking for excuses or someone else to blame. It shuts down productive conversations and growth. Instead, create an atmosphere of understanding. For example, instead of saying, “You don’t care enough to do [something important
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Too often, when we say “I’m sorry,” it’s less about genuine remorse and more about wanting to stop the other person from being upset. But what people truly want when they feel hurt is to feel understood, not just hear an apology. So if you’ve hurt someone, even unintentionally, start by understanding their perspective. Then,
Why “I’m sorry” doesn’t work. What you should say instead. Read More »
Being a good spouse involves much more than simply fulfilling traditional roles or responsibilities. It’s about being present and attuned to what your partner needs, recognizing that those needs can change as life unfolds. What worked for your relationship a few years ago or even last month may not resonate with your spouse in this
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We’ve all been there—someone distorts what we’ve said or assumes our feelings. Comments like, “You just think everyone should agree with you,” “So you believe that I’m always wrong,” or “You’re saying you don’t care about this issue at all,” can leave us feeling frustrated. When faced with these kinds of statements, it’s important to
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Understanding our behavior can reveal deeper insights into our desires and motivations. When we take a step back to reflect on our actions, we often uncover what we genuinely want, even if it contradicts our verbal expressions or what we think we want. For instance, if you often forget to reply to your partner’s texts
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The phrase “I think this is where we differ…” is a great way to acknowledge a disagreement without escalating conflict. It keeps the conversation respectful, showing that you recognize and respect the other person’s perspective while expressing your own. It’s a softer, more thoughtful approach to differences, opening the door for dialogue rather than argument.
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When we run into differences or difficult situations, we often fall into either/or thinking: “Either your way or my way,” “Either do this or do that. Instead, look for the AND. Seek ways to incorporate multiple perspectives, needs, or solutions into the situation. Rather than feeling forced to choose between two opposing options, find a
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A year of understanding and being understood. A year of peace and endless possibilities. A year of clarity and the courage to act. A year of healing and renewed hope. A year of stability with just the right touch of adventure. And may all the changes that happen this year bring revealed blessings.
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