Relationships aren’t defined by their beginnings. Every relationship starts off with excitement and promise. What truly matters is the ongoing effort and commitment each partner puts in over time. Its true strength lies in how they both continue to show up for each other over time. In the beginning, the newness of the relationship was […]
Growing the love – from the beginning until forever. Read More »
When we avoid our own emotions, we end up downplaying everyone’s emotions, living as if feelings aren’t significant or worthy of acknowledgment. This mindset can cause us to overlook or brush aside the emotions of others because we’ve conditioned ourselves to believe they’re not a big deal. We simply don’t notice or tune into our
Ignoring your own emotions impacts your relationships and your whole life. Read More »
Each conversation, whether significant or seemingly trivial, contributes to the growth and strength of the relationship—either drawing you closer together or driving you further apart. ✔️Honest, empathetic, and attentive communication fosters understanding and strengthens the connection between partners. ❌On the other hand, constant fights and unresolved conflicts can make you grow apart, eroding trust and
Your relationship grows with every conversation – either closer or further apart. Read More »
Expecting others to read our minds or catch our subtle hints just leads to disappointment, misunderstandings, and resentment. It’s unfair to expect others to figure out what we want without us saying it straight. When we don’t speak up about our needs and desires, we are setting the stage for disappointment all around. Either we’re
Hinting or wishing won’t get you what you want—speak up! Read More »
When one spouse makes decisions without consulting the other, it not only fosters a sense of inequality but can also leave the other feeling disregarded, ultimately leading to resentment and conflict. And often, it really isn’t the best decision for the couple or family. This unilateral decision-making is a fundamental breakdown of communication and erodes
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Getting defensive at the slightest hint of criticism is a common reaction for those who have a deep-seated fear of being seen as imperfect. For many, taking accountability and admitting fault or weakness feels like a blow to their self-esteem. They worry that acknowledging mistakes might lead others to respect them less or see them
Defensiveness doesn’t protect the ego; it erodes the relationship. Read More »
There are two ways we may respond in a conversation: to the words or to our feelings. Reacting to feelings, especially if they’re uncomfortable, often leads to defensiveness, denial, anger, or shutting down. Reacting to words addresses the actual issue more constructively. For example: Your partner says, “I feel like you haven’t been spending much
In conversations, are you responding to the words or your feelings? Read More »
Avoiding difficult conversations might feel easier in the moment, but it’s a short-term solution that leads to long-term problems. When we sidestep these important discussions, the underlying issues don’t just disappear—they persist and often grow worse. Unresolved topics continue to fester, fostering emotions like disappointment, frustration, and resentment. It’s crucial to face these conversations head-on
[Navigating Difficult Conversations 3/3] 📌Approaching challenging conversations with your spouse requires thoughtful preparation to ensure clarity and composure throughout the discussion. By taking proactive steps to outline key points, manage emotions and expectations, and set a constructive tone, you can navigate difficult topics with potentially greater ease and effectiveness. First and foremost, begin by outlining
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[Navigating Difficult Conversations 2/3] Before engaging in any challenging conversation with your partner, take a few moments for a pre-conversation “meta-conversation.” This proactive discussion about your upcoming conversation can set the stage for effective communication and ensure a productive exchange of thoughts and feelings. Here’s what to include: • Agree on Ground Rules: Establish clear
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