You may not be able to spend time together in the same place, but it is still important to spend some time with each other. Here are some date night ideas. Of course, you don’t have to do them at night, and you don’t have to make it an official date.
Note: The links provided are just one example of ideas in that category; you can Google for other ideas. Additionally, the links have only been skimmed and analayzed for hashkafic appropriate.
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Conversations you might have
To set up your marriage
- Communication styles (how do you like to hear bad news, how do you like to be asked to change a way of doing things, what feels like a real apology, how do you like to be told that other one is stressed, how will someone know if you are stressed)
- Checking in with each other (ex: weekly meetings)
- Money styles, budgets, accounts
- In law/ boundaries
- Love languages
- Personality tests (ex: 16personalities, personalitytype.com)
- Gift wish lists
- Favorites (if spouse wants to do something special for you – what would that be? What is your favorite restaurant, night out, food, music, scent)
Getting to know each other even deeper
- Family history
- Childhood memories
- What If … questions
- Would you rather … questions
- Conversations to deepen relationship
Long Distance ‘date nights’
Via Whatsapp Video
- Cooking same recipe at same time
- Walk around the neighborhood – show highlights of your neighborhoods (shul, park, favorite stores. Tell stories/ anecdotes about these spots)
- Paint Night (you can work with instruction websites)
Do simultaneously and chat about it (or screen share)
- Watch a video/movie (watchparty)
- Online escape room
- Virtual tours / virtual hikes (museums, google maps)
- Sudoko
- Board games – ex: battleship, Pictionary, triva
- Armchair traveling
- Build ‘model [airplane] (buy 2 of same thing – each does in their own house)
- Paint mug/ plate (using Sharpie oil based paint markers)
- Word puzzles
- ‘Window’ shopping
- Poke around Pinterest in areas of interest
- Create ‘virtual’ vision boards
- Make a memory book of dating (google images of where you went, captions, etc.) – Shutterfly, Picaboo
- Show family pics
- Virtual board games, Mad Gabs, list of ‘Multi Player games’, Scategories
- Fancy dinner (order/make same food, candlelit, etc.)
- Lego competition (create ‘something’ from lego kits or just lego)
- Create [something] from random stuff in the house
- ‘Show and tell’ of things that are meaningful to you.
- Drawing/ creating challenges
- Doodling on each other’s digital doodles
- Create a ‘time capsule’ – “open this on our 5th anniversary”
- ‘Read my lips’ – mute yourself and talk. See if you can understand what the other said.
- Online JIgsaw puzzles (multiplayer)
Doing & Discussing
- Read same book/article – discuss
- Watch Ted talk – discuss
- Take same course – discuss/ do ‘homework together’ skillshare, coursera
- Research vacation/honeymoon destinations
Other
- Send ‘open when…’ notes. By snail mail. (‘Open when you are feeling [lonely, stressed, in the mood of a joke]’) You can send separate ones or a packet. Label each envelope.
- “Date-In-A-Box” – popcorn (microwave), cool drink, snuggle blanket, DVD (or link to a movie); candles, flowers, music CD (or link), cloth napkins, wine
- Make a word search with words related to your lives
- Send e-cards. (corny is OK)
- Send ‘sketchtoy’ handwritten messages
- Read Laffy Taffy jokes. (order a box of Laffy Taffys for each of you). Make up your own puns.
- Play ‘road trip games’ – ABC game (words in certain category that begin with each letter of alphabet), 21 Questions, Endswith (words in certain category that begin with the last letter of the previous word)
- Photoshop yourselves in all kinds of cool places
- Mad Libs style stories
Gift Ideas (gifts don’t have to cost money or be grand)
- Gift certificate to Barnes & Nobles or other local book store
- Stress balls, coloring books for adults & colored pencils, puzzles, soduko
- Food
- Link to a song/article you think they’ll enjoy
- Kit related to a hobby/ interest
Related Resources
- Dating Ideas in the time of Social Distancing (YU Connects)
- Pleasant Activities & their Social Modification (YU Connects)
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