Once your words are said, the impression they leave is remembered forever. Even if the words are forgiven, they are not forgotten. Choose your words carefully.
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You can’t make another person happy. No one can make you happy. – Meet each other’s needs. And the happiness will flow from that.
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Think how you could make it easier for your spouse to increase their positive characteristics (ie: to do more of what you would like to see from them). – Think about: For my spouse to be more ________, I could ________. For my spouse to pitch in more with housework, I could be less concerned
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Every choice you make is like a seesaw; when you say “yes” to one thing, you are saying “no” to another. For example, if you are saying ‘yes’ to helping someone, you are saying ‘no’ to using that time for yourself. If you are saying ‘yes’ to working more hours, you are saying ‘no’ to
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Men and women feel stress differently and manage stress differently as well. To generalize, women reach out to others when stressed, and men seek escape. Women will seek support and want to talk about it to lower their anxiety. Men repress their feelings and might change the subject. The key is to understand the difference
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Asking for forgiveness places control in the other person’s hands, since he/she doesn’t have to forgive you just because you’ve apologized. Note: There is a difference between asking for forgiveness and DEMANDING forgiveness. Words you might use: “I care about you a lot. Will you please forgive me?” – “I know it might take you
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How you accept an apology from your spouse will impact if you will get apologies in the future; after all, arguments and injuries are inevitable in a marriage. Accept the apology gracefully. If you make it hard to apologize, your spouse will be less forthcoming in the future. Accepting the apology gracefully and forgiving is
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A heartfelt apology includes REMORSE. Remorse comes from true empathy for the pain the other person is feeling because of your actions. Remorse is different from feeling regret. Regret has to do with wishing you hadn’t taken a particular action or said something. You may regret an action because it hurt someone else, but you
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It is about seeing that the other person has just as much right to be happy with the result as you do. – Accommodating is not an act of weakness; it demonstrates that you care for someone – beyond yourself. – Accommodating doesn’t mean that you are wrong and someone is right. It only means
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In-law jokes aside, this is a serious topic. The parents who raised your spouse want to continue a loving relationship with their adult child – even if they are no longer living in the same home, even if they are married. Of course, the relationship has changed. Their adult child spends more time and energy
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