Having sincere gratitude allows us see the world as wonderful – full of blessings, possibilities and opportunities. Being grateful builds happiness. Happiness makes you more pleasant to be around and likeable. And it opens your brain for creativity and productivity. These are all magnets for more good to come into your life. It all starts […]
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Don’t even think disparagingly about yourself. Your thoughts come out in your words and body language. If you think and speak poorly about yourself – no matter the reason – you will begin to believe yourself. Into a downward spiral. You won’t like being around yourself. And frankly, most other people won’t either. People like
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You’ve sincerely apologized for the hurt that you have inflicted. What comes next? Actually, now it is all in the hands of the receiver. You can’t rush the process. After you’ve apologized, let the other respond as they feel. You can’t tell them how to feel. They are entitled to still be upset or sad
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If you did something that hurt your spouse – even if they hurt you too– own up to your part and apologize. Do not insist on a reciprocal apology. Don’t even anticipate one. You do what you should do. You are only responsible for and can only control your own words. The other person is
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‘Disqualifying the positive’ is when someone recognizes only negative aspects of a situation while ignoring the positive. It sounds something like: “Yes, but…” or “That doesn’t really count because…” or “They only did that because …” — “It’s true that they gave me a gift, but they only gave it to me because someone reminded
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A hurt is a hurt and needs healing – no matter if it was an accident or done on purpose. We must apologize for any hurt that we inflicted. If someone was physically hurt, their body needs to heal – no matter how they got hurt, no matter if it was done by accident or
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Because your marriage is unique and individual, it is important that you create your own marriage culture for your shared life. With its own set of guidelines for relating, deciding, communicating, sharing responsibilities, etc. These should be set up as agreements between the two of you. –“We agree that we will have a discussion before
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Our words create our reality. Hearing oneself apologizing all the time can lead a person to start feeling bad about being themselves. Sometimes, it isn’t an apology that is in order, but rather some gratitude. Instead of “I’m sorry I’m always late”, say “Thank you for waiting for me.” Instead of “I’m sorry I always
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Life is stressful. We all have a lot going on. Lots on our plate, lots on our mind. And all that stress might get in the way of playfulness and intimacy. It might be impossible to totally put aside all of life to be playful together. You might think of it as a series of
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Name calling should never be part of your communication. Never. Find another way to express your feelings other than calling names. Even if something your spouse did or said was unwise or ineffective or brought negative repercussions, don’t ever resort to name calling. It attacks the other person. It damages the relationship. It won’t change
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