You may have different comfort zones and styles for driving. Your spouse may drive too fast, too slow, too cautious, too reckless. They may drive too closely to the car ahead. Or switch lanes too often, or not enough. You may even have different routes to get to the same place – some like scenic […]
Have confidence in your spouse’s driving. Read More »
You may be a great driver. You can speed and weave and change the volume all at the same time. But that makes your spouse queasy. (And they probably have let you know that.) So even though you absolutely know that you are a great driver… or you love the feeling of control or adrenaline
Show you care. Drive the way your spouse wants you to. Read More »
Differences in driving styles can cause arguments and tension. Never good, especially when driving. While you may want to tell your partner to slow down or use their turn signal more often, these statements can be misconstrued as criticisms or backseat driving. This could cause a fight, which might distract the driver and … If
When your spouse is driving, just be the passenger. Read More »
(Hangry: bad-tempered or irritable as a result of hunger.) “You are not you when you are hungry” The science behind hanger is about low blood sugar levels and cortisol and epinephrine which are released in an attempt to raise it back to normal. But those hormones also happen to lead to irritability. Also, low blood
Hangry is not an excuse. It may just be the reason.. Read More »
If you don’t know what you want, then how can your spouse know? She: “Please support and encourage me to go to the gym.” Day 1: He: “How was the gym?” She: “Stop that, you make me feel bad. I didn’t get to the gym.” Day 2: He: (let me try another angle) “At what
Even with a ‘we’ mentality, your spouse still can’t read your mind. Read More »
You can’t GET anyone to do anything. Well, you can – if you manipulate, control, bully; none are good for a marriage. You can only control yourself. So if you want a different dynamic in your relationship, only look at the area that you can control – yourself. You can’t get someone to listen to
How can you get your spouse to listen more? You just can’t. Read More »
To be clear, it is interdependence, not co-dependence. Before marriage, your actions and decisions mostly impacted just yourself. Your own bank account, your own reputation, your own credit score, your own time, your own living style. As soon as you got married, that all changed. You are part of a WE or an US. What
In marriage you shift independence to interdependence. Read More »
No rights. Just responsibilities or obligations to each other. The obligation to respect and care for each other – physically and emotionally. When each of the couple cares for and respects each other, then the issue of rights falls moot. Both are quite happy in the relationship. Don’t look to see that your rights are
To be clear, a WE mentality does not mean that you get to know everything about your spouse. There are many things that can remain private. –Private, not secret.– Conversations between friends, emails, mistakes, past history, what each did during the day. When there is trust, neither feels the need to know. A WE mentality
Privacy and a ‘we’ mentality. There can/ ought to be both. Read More »
We have become the ‘me’ generation. And with that, a lot of self help and self reflection. There is a place for all that. We can only change ourselves, we need to know ourselves so we can recognize our role in our life’s situation. and all that. All very very important. At the same time,
Not self-reflection, rather us-reflection Read More »
