Anger, in and of itself, is neither good nor bad. It’s what we do when we’re angry that matters. Anger is a tool that helps us to read and respond to situations that bother us. Many important and good changes in society were initiated because someone was angry about an injustice. You see something that […]
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Anger has several levels, ranging from the mildest to the severest. Awareness of these levels can help you better understand what it going on for you and you can better deal with your emotions and triggers. What is your anger temperature? Low: Irritated/ bothered/ annoyed: A person is irritated when something happens that they are
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“I want to talk about this.” It’s not so much that your spouse wants to talk, as much as they want to be listened to and understood. They want to see that you care to hear what is going on for them, their perspective, their dreams, their worries. They want to know that they matter
When your spouse says that they want to talk, they really want to be understood. Read More »
Thinking and planning may be helpful. But it is action that counts. You don’t have to pre-plan or envision exactly how it will all work out. Just get started. Do you find yourself in the ‘thinking loop’ (also known as ‘overthinking’)? Take a few steps toward your goal. Tell yourself that you can always go
Your schedule is packed and somehow you are not getting to do the things you rally want. Is it time management, or is it priority management? You have to be intentional with your time and align your schedule with your values. Get clear with what is most important to you. Think in areas of work,
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You know you want to improve in some area. Or, at least you know that you don’t want whatever it is to continue in the way that it is. You can’t just say that you won’t get stressed over small things. You MUST have a plan of what you will do when a stressor comes
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When you know your ‘why’, the ‘how’ is easier to do. When you first identify your values (or standards) that you want to live by, it is easier to see what action steps you need to take to get there. Additionally, because your action steps are based on values you want in, and for, your
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Circular argument: “You are never home so I end up going out to dinner and shopping with friends.” –> “I work late to pay for all those things you buy.” –> “I wouldn’t go out so much if you were home.” Round and round… There are several separate issues being touched on in this conversation.
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All nights of Chanukah, some of the lights are lit and some are not yet. This is potentiality. On the last night of Chanukah, all 8 lights are lit. This is actuality. Every night of Chanukah, we added one more light. Moving through the phases of potentiality to actuality. In our physical world, actuality is
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On Shabbos Chanukah, we light both the Shabbos candles and the Chanukah candles. Traditionally, the Shabbos candles are lit by the woman of the house and the Menorah by the man. Kabbalistically, the woman symbolizes the feminine energy of internal focus, and the man represents the external. By lighting the Shabbos candles, the woman brings
This Chanukah, increase the light in your relationships. Read More »
