Understanding the difference between causes and triggers can help you take the other person’s actions less personally. You can trigger a behavior, but that doesn’t mean that you caused it. A trigger starts something that is primed to happen. A cause is the reason for something to happen. – Your neutral statement “what a beautiful […]
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Every positive thing done in your marriage should be counted. Don’t just dismiss a positive act because “that is what spouses do for each other” or “it’s such a small thing”. Every small thing adds up to a wonderful relationships. And don’t take anything for granted. You are blessed that your spouse does ‘what they
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If you are feeling stuck or in a conflict, ask yourself “Where am I wrong?”. You will gain so much more by asking this question than by insisting you are right, or even asking “Am I wrong?” You are essentially asking: – What information am I missing? – What might I be inferring or misunderstanding?
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Literal definition: Beauty In other words: Rachmonus (merciful compassion) – Empathy – Truth – Harmony – Balance of Chesed & Gevurah EXPRESSIONS of Tiferes: • Beauty is typically produced through the juxtaposition, contrast and balance of colors and textures. Similarly, the emotion of Tiferes is a balance of the two opposing qualities – Chesed and
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If there is something you want to bring up, it might be best to craft it as a question. The answer may be insightful for you and can get the wheels turning in their head about the issue. “I am so happy for you that you love your new job. Do your friends mention that
A question can be a powerful way to get someone thinking. Read More »
“No, I am not sure I do. But I want to understand. Can you help me?” This should come from genuine curiosity – your tone and body language will follow your intention.
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