Feedback and hearing others’ perspectives is how we grow and learn about each other. It is important in a relationship. But giving feedback can be stressful – both to the receiver and the giver. When receiving feedback, most people jump into self-preservation mode and defend themselves. And just knowing that the other may not accept […]
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If you have brought up a topic and your spouse does not want to address it or change, then just let it go. Regardless of how right you believe you are, you cannot force anyone to make changes. If they are not interested in making the change, it behooves you and your marriage to just
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3 Conversations you might have this week What is your level of comfort with risk taking? How big will the payoff have to be for you to take the risk? How does the probability of success play into your decision making? What do you consider a ‘great’ day? What does happiness mean? How is it
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When you try to prove yourself, you are basically trying to show that you are right. Even at the expense at being at odds with others. Even at the expense of actually taking in the insights and bettering yourself. When you try to prove yourself, you might take offense from and challenge genuine feedback, question
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The phrase “Choose your battles” is about recognizing that bringing up the topic will have consequences to the relationship. Life is too short to spend it on warring, and thus choose a battle that is critical and will bring you to a better place rather than fighting for fighting sake. Fight only the most, most,
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Feedback gives you information about yourself that you’re unable to see on your own. Your spouse doesn’t have to give it, but they care enough to take the risk. Focus on the message to see if it’s true so you can decide what change might be needed.
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