That’s how our brains work. There is only so much that our brains can handle at any one time. Being distressed or angry takes energy away from the thinking part of the brain. You might think of the thinking brain as a light and the emotion part of the brain as the dimmer. The light […]
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This is disrespectful of the relationship. Especially when said with a dismissive tone. It’s basically saying that the relationship is not worth working through the issue. That you don’t care enough to work it out. Such words are usually part of longer history of feeling not heard or seen, nevermind understood. If you feel such
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“I was thinking of you today – like everyday – and I remembered that when we just got married you used to like to [walk along the water’s edge/ go to the bookstore/whatever]. Let’s plan for that sometime this week.” “I know you like to put sprinkles on your cake, so I bought you some.”
Surprise your spouse with something unexpected. Out of nowhere. Read More »
The following is a brief summary of the excellent book Helping her Get Free by Susan Brewster. Some of the points she makes may not come naturally to you as you watch a loved one suffer in an abusive marriage. The most important point is “Do No Harm” and so it is so important that
It can be very confusing to people who feel abused in their marriage, to try and determine if the cause is a dysfunctional relationship that may have some abusive features, a spouse with a mental illness or domestic abuse.
Domestic Abuse or Something Else? Read More »
Narcissism is a personality disorder whereby a person has an inflated sense of self-importance.
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Controlling behavior is when one person expects, compels, or requires others to cater to their own needs — even at others’ expense.
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Asking the right questions can unlock the gates for a meaningful connection and deep understanding of one another.
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Ending a shiduch can be a vulnerable time for both of you. How you end the relationship should be done with dignity and respect – for both of your sakes.
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Sometimes it happens. You’re dating someone and you’re just not sure. Sometimes, ‘taking a break’ from meeting each other is the best thing to do.
