Emotions are an opportunity to understand ourselves better. Emotions give us information that is impossible to perceive in any other way. Our emotions give us clues about our physical and emotional well-being. They give us a sense of preferences. They help provide motivation. They help us spot problems before they happen. Feeling excited and energized […]
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3 Conversations you might have this week What are some ‘snow day’ memories? What does trust mean to you? What would make you not trust someone? How does the phrase “ASAP” land on you; how do you feel when someone tells you they want something done “ASAP”? 2 Quotes to inspire you “Planning without action
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You care about each other. A lot. And at the same time, there is one or two or three areas in which you see things differently. Just because you have a disagreement or a difference of perspective doesn’t mean that you can’t respect each other. There are ways to have respectful discourse about the topic
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Other people just aren’t quite you. You might wish they acted or thought differently. But, they are who they are. Let them be. With all their crazy antics and lousy jokes. With their unseemly way of seeing the world. With their bad manners. Everyone has something. In life, not every moment or statement or question
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That double negative “don’t disagree” connotates that “I don’t have an argument with what you’re saying, but I don’t really like it either”. The speaker might be trying to sound less directly opposing, but those words usually don’t land well. A better way would be to be more direct and say what it is concerning
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Rabbi Shais Taub talks about what the husband can do to reset the marriage – bringing your good marriage to even greater levels.
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Do it because you love and care about them. Not for reciprocation or out of guilt or obligation. Just because you want to make a tiny part of their life easier or better. – Choose your clothing the night before so you don’t wake them in the morning with opening and closing doors and drawers
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Sometimes, it is just a request for information and there really isn’t nefarious intent. “Did you just use the credit card?” can simply mean that your spouse received a notification and wants to confirm that it isn’t fraud. It doesn’t necessarily mean that they are checking into your shopping habits or disapproving of your purchase.
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3 Conversations you might have this week What is something that you didn’t have or do as a child that you want your children to have or do? What is a favorite Chanukah memory? What are things you are grateful for – in your life? in your family? in your community? in the world? 2
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LORA is a good rule of thumb for dealing with situations. Listen. Take note of what is going on in the situation. Listen to learn, evaluate, and understand. Make sure your instinct isn’t to listen to confirm. Observe. Try to ascertain what and who is contributing to the situation. Also, think about what is your
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