3 Developing the Relationship

Narcissism is a personality disorder whereby a person has an inflated sense of self-importance.

Controlling behavior is when one person expects, compels, or requires others to cater to their own needs — even at others’ expense.

Asking the right questions can unlock the gates for a meaningful connection and deep understanding of one another.

Ending a shiduch can be a vulnerable time for both of you. How you end the relationship should be done with dignity and respect – for both of your sakes.

Sometimes it happens. You’re dating someone and you’re just not sure. Sometimes, ‘taking a break’ from meeting each other is the best thing to do.

You are dating to learn more if he will be a good husband for you, not just a fun friend.

You are dating to learn more if she will be a good wife for you, not just a fun friend.

You have a concern, work through it. Do not dismiss the shiduch on the false notion ‘if it is meant, it shouldn’t be so hard’.

Try to work through your thoughts and feelings with an objective third party, like your mashpia or coach.

Some topics may be uncomfortable to talk about. Try to make it comfortable for the other to share.