The other person may be doing something that you wouldn’t do or think. And you may be frustrated, angry, disappointed. Expressing your emotions with such harsh words won’t get you anywhere. No one responds well to the implication that something is wrong with them. Rather, be curious. “Help me better understand how you came to […]
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Being grateful builds your positivity – in life in general and in your marriage. Make it a daily ritual to share 2 things for which you are grateful. Sometimes, it can be something for which you are grateful to your spouse. Also include all kinds of other things in your life, big and tiny. “I
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How do you each like to have fun? What is the role of play and adventure in your lives?You might talk about Create a master list of fun things you’d each like to try and discuss how you might bring more of that into your lives. Plan your next adventure or at least something novel that
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3 Conversations you might have this week What is something crazy you did as a teenager. Describe a sleepover you had as a kid. If you lived in the time of Purim story, how might you have reacted to the decree. 2 Quotes to inspire you “The goal is not to be better than anyone
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If it seems to you that your spouse is stressed or concerned or not their usual self, notice and say something. Don’t just hope and assume that it will resolve itself. Ask – with care and concern, “I’m noticing that [you are more quiet] in the last few days. What is going on for you?”
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It is important to include your spouse in important decisions. You are equals and interdependent in the relationship and each of your perspectives are important. Ask, don’t tell. Especially if you want your spouse to be a willing participant. Ask: “What do you think about …?” “What do you say about ….” “What are your
These words are a great opening to important topics that may be somewhat uncomfortable to talk about. By starting the discussion this way, you are stating your intention that you are sharing this possibly difficult information for the sake of the relationship. That you want to stay close and even deepen the relationship and therefore
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It is so important to laugh. Often. Life gives us lots to laugh about. If we choose to see the humor in the chaos. Humor is the capacity to perceive, appreciate, or express what is funny, amusing, ludicrous, etc. in any situation. If you look closely enough, there is a certain amount of humor in
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Our earlier experiences around the holidays impact how we celebrate them as adults. Sharing your Purim memories can help you both better understand why you feel certain ways about different aspects of Purim. You may also decide together about creating new family traditions and experiences. You might share your memories of Purim costumes, Purim meals,
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3 Conversations you might have this week What makes you curious lately? Where would you like to wake up tomorrow? How do you feel about birthdays? 2 Quotes to inspire you “When it hurts – observe. Life is trying to teach you something.” “Some talk to you in their free time. Some free their time
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