Sometimes, a man sees a woman that he finds particularly attractive and cannot help himself comparing her more favorably to the woman he is dating or is married to. It is important that he take a broader view and recognize that it is highly unlikely that it can become a successful marriage.
“I like the person I am dating, but I find other people much prettier/smarter.” Read More »
What happens when we get married, truly believing we are with someone with whom we have a tremendous amount in common and with whom we get along harmoniously, only to discover that we disagree a lot? What do we do when we discover early on in our marriage that we are capable of arguments, and that these can get bitter and confrontational?
We argue a lot, do we have a problem? Read More »
Sharing/ Disclosing about your ‘stuff’ Everyone has ‘stuff’. True, some is more heavy than others. There is an adage, “You’re only as sick as your secrets.” Revealing information that may ruin a shidduch is understandably very difficult, but keeping it secret creates a constant anxiety and a barrier to mutual trust and sincere communication. Marriages have
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Dating begins as a selfish act, whereby a single person is seeking their own happiness. If it is to culminate in a lasting commitment it must result in a selfless love of another. For dating to have succeeded, we need to go from “me” to “we.” That is some journey to go on.
Some people get stuck along the way. If you find that you consistently get stuck along the way, it is worthwhile to ask yourself “Maybe it is me?” and not always assume there is something wrong with the other person.
Do you get stuck in the transition from “me” to “we”? Read More »
Topics you might talk about before Yom Tov to make sure you both are aware and on the same page. DOWNLOAD AS PDF Family minhagim/ traditions/ memories Talk about Pesach family traditions/rituals: days leading up to the Yom Tov, special foods, the first seder, the second seder, Chol Hamoed, last days of Pesach, Acharon shel
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With all the wonderfulness of Pesach, there is also much disruption to schedule and routine. As much as practical, try to set order. Organize your kitchen and food storage as best as possible. Unpack your suitcases. Spend an hour or so planning and you’ll save yourselves and you’ll save yourselves much time (which build up
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