When you are trying to introduce a new way of doing things, don’t impose your ideas. Rather, bring your spouse on board in the decision-making. Or at the very least, ask them if they are willing to go along with your idea. “I have an issue with… can we try something to help with that?” […]
Words to use: “Can we try this?” Read More »
Do a few rounds with these questions. The idea is to do them in quick succession to gain momentum. Of course, as you want you can delve into anything that is brought up. Or you can choose to talk about those at a later time.:• What I am curious about is… or What is something
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It is important to communicate what you want or need from your spouse. It is not fair to make them guess. And, in the end, you won’t be getting what you want or need. State your feelings and then what you would like to happen. “I’m feeling [negative emotion]. And I want to feel [positive
“I feel … I would like …” Read More »
3 Conversations you might have this week 1. What is your favorite type of donut?2. If you could travel to any place for Chanukah where would you like to go?3. What Chanukah family traditions or rituals would you like to incorporate in your family? 2 Quotes to inspire you “The best thing you can give
Adai Ad’s Weekly 3-2-1 [12/5/2021] Read More »
Some people have a sense of humor that is self-deprecating. Other just have a habit of identifying fault in themselves. Funny or not, it is mostly a very bad idea. Being honest about one’s strengths and weakness is absolutely fine, but putting oneself down is most certainly not. Are you the kind of person who
Don’t put yourself down. Read More »
People use the expression “marrying into the family.” It is true that family is an important aspect of marriage. But ultimately you are contemplating marrying an individual. You may marry “into” a family, but you are not marrying “the” family. If you have an issue with a member of someone’s family, that is generally not
So you don’t like her brother – get over it! Read More »
Our instincts are amazing things that allow us to distill highly complex calculations into simple perceptions that allow us to make choices. However, sometimes our instincts are incredibly unreliable. There are times when we would imagine something to be bad for us when it is actually good for us – and vice versa. When it
Don’t over-rely on your instincts. Read More »
Some people are more sociable, and they find it difficult not to interact with their surroundings. Still, recognize that when you are on a date it is all about one person. It is not appropriate for you to engage with the waiter, the old friend you bumped into, or some random person walking by. As
Give exclusive attention to your date. Read More »
Sound too obvious to be said, right? One would like to think so. It is difficult to comprehend, but despite the obvious importance we attach to dating, some of us cannot seem to motivate ourselves to dress to suit the occasion. If you are not convinced of your own dress-sense, make sure to get input
Make an effort to look the part. Read More »
The person you are dating expressed a view or preference that you find instinctively strange. Your instinctive reaction is, “you’ve gotta be kidding.” You may rush to demolish the view or to dismiss that preference. What if instead you kept an open mind and chose to be curious: “It is interesting that you say that;
Replace judgment with curiosity. Read More »
