Somehow, we were conditioned that only one person can be right in a conflict. So, if someone close to us disagrees with how we see something, with what we feel, with what we think, one of us has to be wrong. And we don’t want it to be us. That wouldn’t be good for our […]
Both of you can be right. Read More »
When your spouse does something wrong, remember all the things they do right. The same is true for your kids, neighbors, help and everyone else.
Remember the good. Read More »
Bumped into obstacles?Trying to do too much?Working in crisis mode? Those are big. Sometimes we get so caught up in the overwhelm of the situation. We might think or bemoan:“This is too much.” “It’s not fair.” “There are so many decisions to be made. I don’t know where to start.” “Why do I have to
Feeling overwhelmed? Gain perspective to gain clarity. Read More »
So much is about the way you think about it. Changing the way you think changes the way you feel. Instead of thinking “I should do this ….’, “I must do that …” it is much more effective to think “I could do that (or not).” This creates an opportunity to choose; having a choice
Have too much to do? Change your thinking about it. Read More »
Relationships are a mirror of who we are. This can be very helpful as a way of discovering more fully who we who and how we are. We always see ourselves when we look at the world and other people. Too often, we project the worst and best of ourselves onto others. We project the worst
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Fell off track and feel like you blew the day? (Like you ate 3 donuts and now that you messed up so you’re thinking that you may as well just eat lots more junk.) Instead, think of each day as a set of four quarters: morning, midday, afternoon, and evening. If you blow one quarter,
How to rebound from a mistake. Read More »
When your buttons are pushed, you can have a very strong emotional reaction, such as anger, irritation, or exasperation. But, there’s a better way to respond. If you admit it, you probably have a few hot buttons to which you are sensitive. Think about just one of those. Who and what tends to push it?
A better way to respond when your buttons are pushed. Read More »
You will have conflicts from time to time. You will see things differently from others. It isn’t about having the other person see things in your way, or bringing them over to your way. Rather, good, healthy disagreement leads to eye-opening discussions, growth, and potentially more closeness. In a healthy disagreement, people learn, explore,
Healthy conflict can lead to growth. Read More »
If you want to change something in your life, stop labeling yourself with a label that perpetuates the cycle you’re trying to break. Stop thoughts such as “I’m a procrastinator”, “I’m a perfectionist”, “I’m not a morning person”. Acknowledging habits or preferences that aren’t serving us is a really important first step in change. But
Stop labeling yourself. Read More »
Does this ever happen to you? Your spouse/friend does something nice and you come up with all sorts of explanations about their intentions. How we attribute others’ behavior can make a huge difference. Your spouse gives you a lovely little gift one random day. You wonder what is the reason. There are so many ways
Positive attributions: Key for life satisfaction. Read More »
