There’s power in accepting what is. We don’t have to like what is. We just have to accept that “it is what it is.” It is our ego that holds us back from accepting. It is our ego that expected something else. It is our ego that tells us that we deserve something else. It […]
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People are drawn to those who make them feel uplifted. When you encourage people, challenge them to go on to be bigger and better, you elevate them. Not only will they move forward in their goals, you two will have a stronger connection. You can be their ‘champion’. As their champion, you … 1. Listen
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The fear of making a mistake stems from the illusion of perfection. Perfectionism affects how someone thinks, behaves, and feels. And stops them from growing or making positive changes. Firstly, be realistic. Everyone gets something wrong sometimes. Nobody gets it right all the time. Everyone makes mistakes sometimes. Everyone. Change your doomsday thinking to curiosity.
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When people see areas where their lives intersects with someone else, they feel more connected. This is like saying “I’m like you.” It makes people feel understood and gives them a sense of belonging. In marriage, we will bring up and focus on areas where we have differences more often rather than our similarities. Make
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Table Talk is the informal conversation carried on at meals. Some topics are great fun with everyone having something to contribute and learn from and with each other. Others can make some people uncomfortable. You can plan your Table Talk. Prepare some discussion starters that you anticipate will bring lively conversations. These can be related
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This is one list worth making. When you are in a stressed moment, you may not have the headspace to think about what might hep you de-stress, in a healthy way. Also, your spouse and those around you don’t know what you might need. Take the time to work on a list. Think about what
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We humans are wired (nurture or nature?) to notice the negative. A negative bias. We take the normal for granted. Negative experiences make it to our long-term memory faster than the more neutral or positive ones. But positive memories are the cornerstone to our happiness and even our identity. Therefore, it is worthwhile to do
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This is one of those things that gets forgotten from time to time. There are lots of these little tasks that fall through cracks. Often this happens because the task is not assigned to one specific person. If someone happens to remember than it gets done. And if not, the conversation goes something like this:
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A GREAT LIFE IS MADE OF GREAT MOMENTS It’s moments, not things, that make for a great life. A great life is made of lots of wonderful smaller moments. Some are magical surprises. But most are in your hands. It’s what you choose to do, how you choose to see the world around you, how
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Many times, after learning something new (like attending a workshop about marriage), we are pumped and inspired about all the new things we ought to do. We might make a ‘to-do’ list of little tasks and projects to accomplish that new goal. Before making that ‘to-do’ list, think about your ‘to-be’ list. Who do I
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