Venting is a cathartic tactic for blowing off steam. It is a sharing of your emotions around a subject. “I feel so frustrated when that happened.” Venting can help you move forward or at least through the situation. On the other hand, complaining is wallowing. It is coming from a place of powerlessness, victimhood. It’s […]
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It’s easy to think negatively about your partner when they do something that you don’t like. Especially when you are stressed and thus feeling more sensitive. Instead of criticizing, you ought to ask yourself, “Could it be…?” When you ask this question, you’re focusing on an alternative instead of going straight to the negative. For
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“Get your own back”: When I first saw this phrase, I understood it along the lines of “I got your back” which means that the other person is there to help you out, they will watch out and take care of the things you’re likely to miss, that they are a second set of eyes
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When you aren’t feeling it, when you start tuning out, is when you really ought to be listening, tuning in. Listening to understand the other person, listening to connect to them. If you are tuning out, then there is probably something going on between you that needs to be rectified. It’s time to really listen.
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We know we ought to make the change (eat better, exercise, learn our spouse’s preferred way of being addressed), but we just don’t do it. Why? Change is hard because it’s always easier to stay where you are. That is inertia. The law of inertia states: A body at rest tends to remain at rest.
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Don’t take today into tomorrow. Start each day with a fresh slate. At the end of the day, reflect on the day. Take in the learnings and insights and flush out the negativity. Think about what new knowledges and insights you learned and how they impact your thinking. Think about what you learned– about yourself:
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We may live and love and pray and mask and dress and react and vote and believe differently. We are all people with different backgrounds, cultures, needs, fears, dreams and triggers. All that withstanding, every person deserves respect and understanding. Equally. Even if you don’t agree with them, or even understand their perspective. Especially those
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With all the celebrations and joy of the Tishrei Yomim Tovim also comes some stress. (even good things have their own stress). And then there’s all this Covid stuff. Take the time to reconnect with your spouse. Make it a priority. Have a date night this week. Just to have fun together. Caveat: Don’t use
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Things not going as you had envisioned or planned? You had expectations that didn’t quite pan out? “Yom Tov shouldn’t be this way”, “We should have had our parents for Yom Tov.”, “It’s not fair to have to do this and not be able to do that.” Allow yourself to feel the feeling for a
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Avoid confusion and disappointments. Give clear and understandable instructions. Some quick pointers: Don’t assume they know what you mean; no one can read your mind. So be clear and specific. And concise, it’s hard to follow long winded instructions. Get straight to the point. Don’t hint at it. Don’t say, “The table needs to be
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