JOT sefira

Do more of what works and less of what doesn’t. Reflect on your relationship and marriage. You might use the SSC (Start, Stop, Continue) model: What should I START doing that I am not yet doing currently? What should I STOP doing that is not working well for my marriage? What should I CONTINUE doing […]

Good intentions are not enough. Turn them into intentionality. You know you want to improve in some area. Or, at least you know that you don’t want whatever it is to continue in the way that it is. Think positively and specifically: “What I will do” vs “What I will not do anymore”. You can’t

Put your marriage first. Adjust & accommodate. When your marriage is a priority, you do whatever it takes. You adjust and accommodate as needed. Accommodating is not an act of weakness; it demonstrates that you care for someone – beyond yourself. It is about seeing that the other person has just as much right to

Literal definition: Beauty. In other words: Rachmonus (merciful compassion). Empathy. Truth. Harmony. Balance of Chesed & Gevurah. Expressions of Tiferes: Beauty is typically produced through the juxtaposition, contrast and balance of colors and textures. Similarly, Tiferes is the perfect beautiful balance of the two opposing qualities – unconditional, unlimited giving (Chesed) and judgment (Gevurah) –

Ask your spouse: “What is your ‘empathy language’; how do you prefer I show empathy – what words or actions work best for you; what doesn’t work?” “When was a time that you felt that I really ‘got you’; what did I do to make you feel that way?” Be brave, ask for insight and

How do you act with Tiferes in your marriage? 1. Balance? Do you generally act with Tiferes – giving beautifully, the perfect balance of Chesed and Gevurah? Are there certain circumstances in which you do express yourself with Tiferes, empathy, and others you do not; why is that? 2. Giving? How compassionate is your giving,

Empathy is about trying to understand the other person. Think about what you already know about the person and how they typically respond in similar situations. Try to place yourself in the situation – from their perspective. Then, tailor your support for this particular person – not how you or others might want or need.

Empathy in positive experiences too. Empathy and compassion are also about responding appropriately to their positive experiences. Being happy with them. Being excited with them.

3 dimensions of empathy. Understanding the three types of empathy can help you build stronger, healthier relationships. Cognitive empathy also known as ‘perspective-taking’, enables you to put yourself in someone else’s shoes – but without necessarily engaging with their emotions. Cognitive empathy makes you a better communicator, because it helps you relay information in a

Literal definition: Beauty. In other words: Rachmonus (merciful compassion). Empathy. Truth. Harmony. Balance of Chesed & Gevurah. Expressions of Tiferes: Beauty is typically produced through the juxtaposition, contrast and balance of colors and textures. Similarly, Tiferes is the perfect beautiful balance of the two opposing qualities – unconditional, unlimited giving (Chesed) and judgment (Gevurah) –