JOT

How do you act with Malchus in your marriage? 1. Leadership Style? Does your leadership style come with honor, respect, and best interest of the marriage and family? Are your priorities healthy for your marriage? 2. Mutuality? In your marriage, do you impose your authority? Do you make room for your spouse? Do you help […]

Take initiative and start the change in your relationship. Someone has to start.  If you want improvement in the relationship, then just start. Your spouse will follow shortly (at least, spouses usually do).

Consider your spouse when you make plans. Often, your plans can impact others in your sphere, particularly your spouse Consider how your plans may impact them Will they be inconvenienced, surprised, worried, or unprepared? As possible, include your spouse in the planning as early in the process Be flexible with your plans and adapt as

Stick up for your spouse. Your spouse wants to feel that you have their back. That you’d stick up for them in front of your parents and family. And their family. As a married couple, you should put up a united front to hold each other’s dignity to the utmost. Defend your spouse. Call out

Literal definition: Kingship. In other words: Leadership. Nobility. Aristocracy. Dignity. Authority, Power. Royalty. Speech. Expressions of Malchus: Malchus is about embodying leadership through your words, behavior, and attitude in all aspects of your life. It involves actualizing goals and bringing dreams into reality with dignity, nobility, and regality. To be an effective leader, your actions

Ask your spouse: “What is one way that we bond and feel connected? What else can we do in that area to enhance that?” Be brave, ask for insight and feedback: “What is one area of communication that I can improve? Can you please share some examples of how you would like me to communicate

How do you act with Yesod in your marriage? 1. Communicator style? Are you a good communicator? Do you sincerely share your inner self? Are you at all self-serving in your relationship or genuinely invested and connected exclusively with your spouse? Do you keep anything bottled up inside? 2. Connection? Do you know if your

Dream together. Together, dream about your future. Your family, your work, your community projects, your home. Your tomorrows together. Dreaming together is a huge step in becoming one, growing, and connecting with each other as a unit. As you work toward your dreams, you have a shared commitment and goal. And a unifying purpose moving

Learn each other’s communication styles. We each have different ways that we prefer to take in and share information – our communication style. It is worthwhile to learn each other’s styles so you can tailor and individualize your messages so that they are best understood and received. And you will also have a better understanding

Build each other’s sense of self and confidence. Yesod is about connecting and building each other’s sense of self and confidence. Validating, affirming, complimenting, acknowledging. Encouraging, inspiring. Believing in them, respecting, and appreciating them. And listening. All these strengthen the commitment and thus the foundation of the marriage.