JOT

Ask your spouse: “What is an area that I have accepted influence from you? How does that impact our relationship?” “What is another area that I should be more open to learning from you?” Be brave, ask for insight and feedback: “What is one thing in our relationship or family that I should be more […]

How do you act with Hod in your marriage? 1. Deference? How is your humility expressed in your marriage? Are you open to influence from your spouse? Are you genuinely open to your spouse’s opinion? Do you make space for your spouse or are you dominating? 2. Ego? Are there circumstances in which your ego

Receive graciously, so that your spouse can be a giver. When you receive a gift or assistance, really receive it; it is a sign of gratitude and respect to the giver. The giver wants to give you something. Refusing the gift or assistance denies the giver the joy of giving. If you don’t (yet) receive

Don’t prove yourself, improve yourself. When we try to prove ourselves, we are basically trying to show that we are right. Even at the expense of being at odds with others. Even at the expense of actually taking in the insights and bettering ourselves When we try to prove ourselves, we might take offense from

Instead of assuming, ask a question. Asking questions helps you gain the insights and information that you need to act according to real facts, rather than from assumptions. Sometimes, it may take some humility to ask. But, don’t let pride get in the way of doing what needs to be done so that you make

Literal definition: Majesty. Thanksgiving. In other words: Humility. Acknowledgment. Gratitude. Admitting. Modesty. Comprising. Appreciative. Consulting. Flexibility. Openmindedness. Expressions of Hod: Hod is about acting from humility; it is about conquering your ego and putting aside your own agenda, pre-conceived judgments, and expectations. It’s about accepting and being curious about reality. It’s about being an empty

Ask your spouse: “What is something that I am doing that contributes to the success of our marriage; how can I build on that?” Be brave, ask for insight and feedback: “I am looking for feedback about how I am doing as a husband/wife; what is one area that you would like me to work

How do you act with Netzach in your marriage? 1. Commitment? In what ways do you demonstrate your unwavering commitment to make your marriage a success? Does your spouse feel that from you? What else can you do to further act on this commitment to the success of your marriage? 2. Determination? How does your

Do more of what works and less of what doesn’t. Reflect on your relationship and marriage. You might use the SSC (Start, Stop, Continue) model: What should I START doing that I am not yet doing currently? What should I STOP doing that is not working well for my marriage? What should I CONTINUE doing

Good intentions are not enough. Turn them into intentionality. You know you want to improve in some area. Or, at least you know that you don’t want whatever it is to continue in the way that it is. Think positively and specifically: “What I will do” vs “What I will not do anymore”. You can’t