There are so many unknowns now; the situation is fluid and changing soo rapidly, it is hard to plan for even the nearest future. There is a wide range of ways that people respond to uncertainty. For many the uncertainty is quite uncomfortable and others are having a good time making jokes. There is no […]
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Helping someone work through marriage issues is a huge responsibility. The number one rule in medicine “Do No Harm” is definitely apropos here. You certainly do not want to make a difficult situation even more complex. The questions you ask, the perspectives you share, the words you use; these all matter – are you helping or are you making things even worse?
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Yes, you are at home and you might wish you were somewhere else. You may be missing a wedding or an important conference or your friends. Or you might have had an event cancelled on you. But, JOMO. There is joy in missing out. Instead, be present to what is. Tune out the “I wish
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Your marriage is more important than bringing your spouse to your ideas about what is being prudent. Talk about it with respect and curiosity. You may learn something new about your spouse and how they deal with doubt and the uncertain. Or how they deal with health concerns in general. Or how they take in
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Avoiding an issue because it might be uncomfortable to bring it up doesn’t make the issue go away. More likely it brings more negativity to the overall situation in forms of resentment and beating oneself up for not having the courage to bring it up. We may have fears and that is why we don’t
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The next days and weeks are busy times. So much to do, not enough time. Many couples are so busy that they don’t take time to nurture the foundation of their family – their marriage and their relationship with each other. Don’t let that be you. You need to set your spouse as a priority.
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“I don’t care what you do” is one of those phrases that can be misinterpreted because it can have several different connotations. It can be understood as “I don’t have a particular preference, all options are OK with me.” It can also mean “You and this whole issue aren’t important to me.” Or so many
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The word ‘resolve’ communicates good intention on your behalf. It indicates hope and an interest in clearing things up. “I want to resolve how we can work through differences in a way that we both feel heard and respected.” or “How might we resolve this?”
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Big aspirations? Be realistic, making drastic changes is not usually sustainable. Start small with one small micro-habit at a time. A micro-habit is ridiculously small, but very manageable. Want to include more exercise in your life? Start with a walk down the block. You can build up to a 3 mile run. Want to add
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Comparing ourselves to others is part of our human nature. There is a positive side to it too; it can be helpful in motivating us to stretch and improve ourselves. Yet, all too often, it leaves us feeling badly about ourselves. To compare usually ends up in despair. There will always be someone who is
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