You might use this question when talking about differences and change requests. The idea is to get a better picture of the specifics of what the other is envisioning or wishing. For example, if you are discussing your different ideas for Shabbos afternoon family time. You might ask “What would it look like if the […]
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“We need to talk.” People (especially men) don’t like to hear about what they are doing ‘wrong’. It brings up feelings of shame and inadequacy. Which then brings the desire to shut down or to run away. Which then makes the other person feel even more upset and resentful. In a downward spiral. Of course,
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Any time you talk about what it means to be a part of your family, you strengthen the connection to family and what the family stands for. Knowing where each other comes from can help each of you learn from and appreciate each other’s family stories. Talk to each other about your families and the
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3 Conversations you might have this week How is your life different from what you imagined? Which of your grandparents or parents are you similar to? In what way(s)? What’s your favorite song lyric? Why? 2 Quotes to inspire you “Every flower blooms in its own time.” “All things are difficult before they are easy.”
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Begin by asking the other person directly what you can do to help. “What might I do to support you?” “What would make it better?” If they are unable (or unwilling) to share, ask yourself: What helped me when I felt similarly? Or: What would have helped me? Think about how the other person would
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It would be more advisable to give off a more realistic portrayal of life from the outset, and weave into that the factors that will make your weakness seem less threatening. You can provide context of your life that will make it easy for your date to see how you deal with and manage your issue.
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You can show empathy through your words and supportive actions. Other powerful ways include giving of time (chronemics) and touch (haptics). Different people appreciate different words such as validation (“It makes sense you would feel this way”), identifying with their feelings or situation (“I understand because that happened to me”), or expressing differences (“I can’t
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By saying this, you are trying to shift the responsibility away from yourself and blame it onto the other person. Take responsibility for your words/ actions. That is separate from the fact that the other person may or may not be doing the same thing too. At a later point, when you are both calm,
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Understanding the three types of empathy can help you build stronger, healthier relationships. Cognitive empathy also known as ‘perspective-taking’, enables you to put yourself in someone else’s shoes – but without necessarily engaging with their emotions. Cognitive empathy makes you a better communicator, because it helps you relay information in a way that best reaches
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