If you refuse to listen to others, you will eventually be surrounded by people who have nothing significant to say. If you don’t listen, or worse bark at those who talk to you, then people just won’t want to talk to you. They won’t bring up ideas. They won’t bring up concerns. They won’t give […]
If you don’t listen, they won’t talk to you. Read More »
A positive attitude has a profound effect on how you behave, and the choices you make. And makes you more attractive to be around. Think about it. People like to be around others who make them feel better about themselves and their lives. This is true about family, friends and business relationships. There are some studies
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Sympathetic Joy: the pleasure that comes from delighting in other people’s well-being (specifically in their successes). Celebrating triumphs in life – from small, seemingly trivial ones to those that are more significant – strengthens the bond between two people. Being genuinely enthusiastic in responding to your spouse’s success or good fortune can have a positive
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Every time you use an excuse, you’re holding yourself back from getting what you really want out of life. The more you use excuses, the harder it will be to get things done. No matter how difficult they might seem at the moment, some things need to be done before it’s too late. First step
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Reframe how you deal with stress. Observe your stress – without judgment. Instead of saying, “I am so stressed!”, say, “I am noticing that I am feeling overwhelmed.” This tiny mindshift puts a little bit of distance between you and the feeling. It loosens the grip of stress and then you can better handle the situation.
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No one person can meet another person’s every need. Don’t put that expectation on yourself. Or on your spouse. That is too much pressure on each of you and the relationship. Allow your spouse to have other people in their lives. Encourage them to have friendships, get advice from others, spend time with family too.
Your spouse can’t be your everything. Read More »
Use codes to send a message without having to say it directly. You might use a hand signal or head nod. You might use a certain word or phrase. This comes in handy when you are with other people. You might also use such codes when you are alone as an inside joke. Or when
Create secret codes that you both understand. Read More »
Your spouse IS different from you. It might be easier if your spouse felt like you, thought like you, had the same needs and personality. But they never will. And that’s a good thing. You complement each other’s strengths and limitations. You are exposed to different perspectives and styles. You are introduced to new interests
For a thriving relationship, understand and respect your differences. Read More »
Your spouse genuinely wants to give and do for you. They want to make your life easier and more pleasant. Without expecting anything in return. Receive their gift to you. Accept it graciously. Delight in their giving. – Allowing yourself to receive from others is a gift to the giver. And to yourself. For the
Receiving is giving. Read More »
Sometimes, people ask a question, but they are really seeking reassurance and encouragement. “Do you think I am ready?” “Does this look good?” They aren’t looking for information and they don’t necessarily even want the truthful answer. Instead of answering the question, respond to the underlying need. “You are well prepared for the presentation.” “I
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