Repair / apology. The ability to prioritize the relationship over being right. To notice when something created distance —and choose to come back toward each other instead of away. Not shutting down.Not withdrawing.Not protecting your ego at the expense of the relationship. It’s not just saying “I’m sorry.”It’s acknowledging impact without turning it into a […]
When you say, “I’m sorry. OK, so I’m not a good (enough) husband/wife,” or throw out phrases like “I’m so pathetic” or “You deserve better than this,” it doesn’t feel like a real apology to me. It feels like you’re deflecting. Honestly, it seems like you’re sidestepping the hurt I’m feeling. Those self-pitying apologies don’t
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Too often, when we say “I’m sorry,” it’s less about genuine remorse and more about wanting to stop the other person from being upset. But what people truly want when they feel hurt is to feel understood, not just hear an apology. So if you’ve hurt someone, even unintentionally, start by understanding their perspective. Then,
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Before Rosh Hashanah, many send greetings, show appreciation, and ask for forgiveness. You may expect or hope for this from those you’ve helped or who may have hurt you. But sometimes, those messages don’t come, or they aren’t quite what you hoped for. Just let it go—don’t stress over it. Try to understand. Some people
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It may be hard to swallow your pride and apologize, but it’s also hard to live in a disconnected relationship. Choose your hard. Choosing to work through the discomfort of apologizing is the right way to respond when you’ve wronged someone.– For you, it’s an opportunity for personal growth and integrity.– For your spouse, it
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Admitting a wrong-doing generally isn’t easy — especially when doing so means acknowledging that you hurt someone you care about. When an apology is absent or it’s a bad apology, it puts a crack in the very foundation of a relationship. You have to mean it. It must be genuine. An insincere apology is worse
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It started off as a difference of perspective and somehow moved beyond a civil conversation and into a fight. Somehow, you both ended up saying things that are regrettable. Get back to loving and caring as quickly as possible. To do that, apologize for your role in the fight. Even if you were ‘totally right’,
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If you have wronged someone, it is incumbent on you to help them release themselves of the pain they may be feeling. A lot of it can come from your sincere apology. The apology is for them, not for you. Work from a place of true humility and remorse. It will come across in your
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People are tense, stressed. You may say or do something that didn’t land right on the other person. Something you might normally say/do that doesn’t ruffle anything might bring negative responses in this time. Or your spouse may have. Be quick to apologize. Explain your regret for having hurt them. Do not explain it away
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As in all communication, the apology is in the hands of the receiver. You may be very sincere, but it is up to the receiver to determine if the apology makes its mark on them. If your spouse is still upset after you apologize, you might ask: “I know that I hurt you. I can
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