It doesn’t matter how much you love someone. What matters is that they know it. The things we feel about one another so often go unexpressed, because we’re busy or thoughtless. Or, because we assume they know. Or, because we want to express it in the most perfect way, so we keep thinking about how […]
It’s not enough to love in your heart; they have to know it. Read More »
Hallmark, jewelers, chocolatiers and thousands of other marketers are telling us what gifts we ought to be wanting and giving to show our love. But those may not be what your spouse wants at all. Expressing love is about the other, so do it their way. Your spouse is unique and may have unique and
Love them in the way they prefer – even if you don’t understand it. Read More »
Most dreams need research and planning. Work on that together. Each of you take the tasks that you are good at or more passionate about. One of you knows how to do research on the computer? One is better at talking to others? Come back together and share. Try to be as objective as possible
Work on your dreams together. Read More »
Without a plan, it is very difficult to make the dream a reality. Since it is a dream that you both have, you both will have ideas about the hows. Brainstorm together. Some ideas will be worth pursuing, some may be way out of reach. Collaborate to create a joint plan. Develop clear and vivid
Talk about your dreams. Read More »
It can be fun to share your million dreams – with a partner who believes in you. Firstly, be open and nonjudgmental. And respectful of different perspectives and needs. As you dream together, you’ll probably have different ideas. Discuss, talk, research. Be ready to listen and modify your dreams. This ought to be an opportunity
A million dreams. Share them with your spouse. Read More »
Together, dream about your future. Your family, your work, your community projects, your home. Your tomorrows together. Dreaming together is a huge step in becoming one, growing and connecting with each other as a unit. As you work toward your dreams, you have a shared commitment and goal. And a unifying purpose moving toward the
Your dates together should be for deepening your relationship, so don’t bring in topics that bring you stress, like bills, housework, work, in-laws, and kids. You can add other topics to this basic list. Keep your topics in the the dating zone. If you find yourselves going toward any of the verboten topics, gently remind
Make certain topics off limit for your date time together. Read More »
Do something nice for your spouse – just because you love and care for them. – Take over a chore or errand. – Pick up, or make, your spouse’s favorite dessert or snack. – Add candles to the dinner table. – Send a loving text. Or write a note and place it in their car
Make it a ‘just because’ day; do something ‘just because’. Read More »
You really don’t have to share everything you are thinking or feeling. So your spouse chose the wrong way to say something? So you disagree about the best route to take home? So your spouse came home a few minutes later than they said they would? So many arguments begin with sneering or ridiculing the
Marriage is improved by the two or three things not said each day. Read More »
Most people prefer presence over presents. They want your time and attention. If you are not around enough for your loved ones, reflect on your time commitments and priorities. You may have legitimate reasons that limit your time together. Or, it might be that you are (subconsciously) choosing to be busy with other things like
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