Sympathetic Joy: the pleasure that comes from delighting in other people’s well-being (specifically in their successes). Celebrating triumphs in life – from small, seemingly trivial ones to those that are more significant – strengthens the bond between two people. Being genuinely enthusiastic in responding to your spouse’s success or good fortune can have a positive […]
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Your spouse genuinely wants to give and do for you. They want to make your life easier and more pleasant. Without expecting anything in return. Receive their gift to you. Accept it graciously. Delight in their giving. – Allowing yourself to receive from others is a gift to the giver. And to yourself. For the
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If you’re going to get yourself a drink or snack, do it for two – get your spouse a drink too, or ask them if they’d like a drink. Getting a sweater – get your spouse one too. Whoever brushes their teeth first puts toothpaste on both of your toothbrushes (just an idea). These little
For most couples, there’s the morning “goodbye” as you go on to your day and the “hello” after the day. Make those meaningful. As possible, actually say “good bye” to each other face to face. Add your own flair – a wink, smile, a quick note. Of course, you can add something special from time
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Create a master list for yourself about your spouse’s positive qualities. You can refer back to this list when you need a reminder. Just doing this exercise is a major booster for marriage. Write these down; don’t just think it. What are 3 qualities that originally attracted me to my spouse? What are 3 favorite
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More than cute little surprises, do some random acts of kindness and helpfulness. At all times, an unexpected act of kindness can go a long way to boost every one’s day. Some ideas to get you thinking… – Fill their car with gas. Clean their car. – Cut up a salad. – Prepare a smoothie
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Show your enthusiasm when your spouse shares good news, such as accomplishment. There are four common ways of responding to news. It all starts with a mindset: – An active-constructive response (enthusiastic support): “That’s great! I knew you could do it. You’ve been working so hard.” – A passive-constructive response (understated support): a warm smile
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Nostalgia has the potential to lift people’s spirits, make them feel more connected to others, and heighten the sense that life has continuity and meaning. Studies have shown that nostalgia can counteract boredom and anxiety, can motivate people to work toward goals, and is linked to increased generosity and tolerance. Go through your trove of
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The next days and weeks are busy times. So much to do, not enough time. Many couples are so busy that they don’t take time to nurture the foundation of their family – their marriage and their relationship with each other. Don’t let that be you. You need to set your spouse as a priority.
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Feeling frustrated with your spouse? Do something extra for them. Say something nice, plan a surprise date night, give a gift ‘just because’. It can be something quite small or large – up to you. While this may seem counterintuitive, studies have shown that giving and doing for others brings physical and mental benefits to
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