Whether it’s in relationships, work, or personal growth, feedback is one of the most powerful tools we have. But only if we’re brave enough to ask for it—and open enough to hear it.Try this: Ask someone you trust:💬 “How am I doing?”💬 “Is there something I could be doing better?”💬 “Anything you wish I knew […]
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So you’ve noticed together that you have a harmful pattern such as interrupting each other during conversations. You’ve spoken about it and want to work on it. Agree on a way to gently remind each other when you slip back into it. For example, you might use a specific phrase or signal like, “Let’s remember
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It can be tough to hear your spouse bring up things they wish you’d do differently. If you avoid these conversations or get defensive, you miss out on chances to grow as a person and as a couple. This can really strain your relationship. Instead, try to be open to what your spouse is saying.
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“I care, therefore I criticize,” or “I’m telling you this because I care about you.” To the one who is being told to do things differently, what comes through loudest and clearest is the criticism. But the one offering suggestions and judgments is usually focused on the caring. Why the disconnect? So much depends on
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Don’t ask for feedback; ask for advice. Feedback has the connotation of past-thinking. Advice is forward-thinking. Feedback is often associated with evaluation, and judgment about performance in the past. This makes it harder to imagine someone’s future and possibly better performance. As a result, feedback givers end up providing less critical and actionable input. In
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Feedback and respectful confrontation are gifts we share to help one another grow. The key is your intent. If you really are providing the feedback to help your spouse, your words and tone should reflect that. That is, once you know the best way to share your insights. – Start off by asking for permission
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