“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.” Our attitude and thoughts determine our level of success or failure. There is true power in our thoughts; they can either empower us or defeat us before we even get started. Instead of saying “I can’t do this,” say “I can find
Replace your “I can’t”s with “I can”s. Read More »
Someone’s actions or inactions make us angry. We think it is because of what they did, as if we are victims of their actions. It really might be that we are angry at ourselves – for not upholding a boundary, for not being assertive enough, for creating an atmosphere where they could do that. Too
Releasing resentment: Who you’re really angry with. Read More »
Free yourself from the self-defeating energy of negative thoughts about someone. Think loving thoughts about someone you resent, wishing them good fortune and blessings. Pray that they receive all the wonderful things you want for yourself in life. Say it out loud, “Hashem: please give love, health and peace to [whomever] today.” Do this as
Think loving thoughts about someone you resent or has upset you. Read More »
People like to feel in control of their lives. And because so much of life is really out of control, we try to reassert some influence over our own lives. We grasp for any sense of control – sometimes, by blaming ourselves for a situation we find ourselves in or for something that happened to
Self-blame is a coping mechanism. And it is futile. Read More »
Sometimes, we don’t understand our own thoughts or motivations. It is worth digging deeper by asking powerful questions – one layer at a time to get to the crux of the issue. Good questions can open up an awareness that you might not have realized. Questions challenge a different part of our brain bringing about a different
Peel the onion of your thoughts. Read More »
If you consistently avoid discomfort, you are restricting yourself to a rather small comfort zone. And you’ll miss out on so much of life. It is doing things that are difficult that helps us grow. Comfort doesn’t. If you want to achieve great things, you have to be in the discomfort zone sometimes. If you
Accept discomfort. Your comfort zone will expand. Read More »
Thoughts flit into your mind all the time. They are just thoughts. They are not absolute truths. Those thoughts don’t describe you. Just because you are thinking or feeling unworthy, does not mean that you are not worthy. When you have intrusive, negative or scary thoughts you don’t have to take them as truths. Rather
You are not your thoughts. Read More »
Do you get triggered? Dr. Gabor Mate describes it like this: Think of an explosive device – there’s the explosives and ammunition, and then also the trigger. When you are triggered by something said or done, the explosives were already in you from before – just waiting to be set off. The question shouldn’t be
When you are triggered, be curious about why you are reacting that way. Read More »
In a heated moment, often the best response is no response. Too often, the first impulse isn’t always the healthiest one. Often, it’s better to take a step back and wait before you make a final decision. Our “emotional brains” often react much faster than our “thinking brains” and our emotions usually don’t make the
Take a step back sometimes. Read More »
When you are constantly moving forward and you’re always looking toward the next thing, it can be difficult to find time to just relax and be grateful for everything you already have in life. It is important to sometimes just stop and enjoy the view. The point of hiking up a mountain isn’t just to
Slow down and enjoy the view. Read More »
