The words with which we think can make a huge difference in how we actually live. And how people perceive us. TRY vs DO “I’m trying to get this done.” vs “I’m doing it; I’m on the journey toward making it happen” — “Trying” is a convenient way for you to never actually have to […]
Is there a conversation you know you need to have, but you just don’t know what to say so you push it off? For starters, you are just dragging out your discomfort. You still have the issue AND the big thought that “I need to say something about this’” weighs very heavily on your mind.
Don’t avoid difficult convos, plan them for real effectiveness. Read More »
Of course, simply, you can’t hear someone else if you are talking. More than that, the quieter the noise – the busyness, franticness – the more you are able to hear and learn and appreciate the world and people around you. In the silent moments of your life – when you are not inundated with
The quieter you are, the more you can hear. Read More »
Whoever expresses their emotions first – whether through words or body language – gets to share their feelings completely before the other can speak. It may not be easy, but it is important to allow the speaker to share it all. This shows respect to the speaker. Even if your spouse is sharing complaints about
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So much of life is how we frame our thoughts. “I am so worried if I am really good enough.” –> “I wonder what I will learn from this whole experience.” Worrying isn’t helpful. The more positive sense of wonder brings more energy to your life.
Not worry, rather wonder. Read More »
You are the one who had a catalyst for this thought – something got you thinking or acting on this. You have been thinking about the issue for a while. You’ve been mulling over it in your head. But the idea is new to your spouse. They need to process it in their own way.
Allow time and space for your spouse to process what you said. Read More »
Listen in to your emotions. They have so much to tell you. Shame. Anger. Anxiety. They all tell us something about what is going on for us. Before it turns into something even larger. Tap into the emotion: “Hey anxiety. What’s going on?” You might notice that something feels out of alignment. Your anxiety may
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Change is hard. You don’t have to do it by leaps. Rather, make small tweaks to your life – one by one. A tweak is a fine, small adjustment. It is small, and therefore manageable. And that can have a huge impact.
It’s not a leap; it’s just a tweak. Read More »
It may be time to challenge the old adage “perception is reality”. Sometimes, we tell ourselves stories abut what is going on; we add our own interpretations and sensitivities to the reality. It is worth digging down to challenge your perception to see if it is actually the reality. Ask yourself these 4 questions. Let’s
Is the story you tell yourself helping you in your life? Read More »
Reality is whatever is in front of you, whatever is really happening. The truth. Whether you like it or not. Let’s say it is raining right now. That is the truth, that is the reality. Thinking that “It shouldn’t be raining” is just a thought. Thinking that your spouse “should be home more with the
‘Should’ has nothing to do with your reality. Read More »
