In moments that seem overwhelming or stressful, ask yourself, “What if this was all OK?” What if this incident or situation really didn’t hold any threat over you or have any power over your happiness and peace of mind? Imagine that your safety is intact even while this is going on. In reality, all* is […]
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When each of you has a different view or desire about something, ask this question. This helps you sort through what is at stake for each other. You’ll get to know how important that thing is to each other. If your spouse rates something as quite high and you rate it lower, then do it
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Want to accomplish more with your time? Stay hyper-focused on the task at hand. Don’t multi-task. If you are consistently fully engaged in whatever you are doing, with no distracting thoughts or activities, everything in your life is more vivid and interesting. You feel less stressed out by wandering thoughts, and you are more productive.
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Wounds can make us feel broken or that we need to be fixed. It’s a lie. We are always whole. Yes, we might have been wounded and subsequently developed some defense mechanisms (such as fear, aggression, avoidance, keeping ideas to ourselves, etc.) to help us cope. Those are masks and armor hiding our authentic selves;
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3 Conversations you might have this week What was the first thing you bought with your own money? What’s the strangest compliment you’ve ever gotten? Some great meals we’ve had together were… 2 Quotes to inspire you “If you grit your teeth and show real determination, you’ll always have a chance.” – Charles M Schulz
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“Be careful with your words. Once they are said, they can be only forgiven, not forgotten.” If you find yourself regretting your words from time to time, it is worthwhile to work on thinking before you speak. Actually, just acknowledging to yourself that you have a tendency to speak without thinking is a crucial first
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The 5 Second Rule (developed by Mel Robbins): The moment you feel yourself hesitate on something you know you should do, count 5-4-3-2-1 and then just do it. The premise is that if you don’t move in the first five seconds, your mental habits of overthinking, doubt and fear will take over. Those thoughts then
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With these words, the speaker is essentially calling the other a liar. If you suspect that they are being untruthful, telling them straight out that you don’t believe them will usually backfire.Instead, say, “I’m having trouble believing you’re telling me the entire story.” It’s less inflammatory and accusatory. Listen to the full story. Ask pointed
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Holding onto a past or a dream that is not your reality will drive you crazy. It wastes so much mental energy. And your time that could be spent on the reality that is your life. Radical acceptance is all about fully accepting your reality in situations that are beyond your control. This doesn’t mean
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Complaining never made anything better. Everyone has things in their lives that they wish were different (or better). But simply complaining for complaining’s sake doesn’t bring change. That’s whining. (Venting is different and should be done judiciously and with intention.) Complaining brings down the mood of everyone in the conversation – especially the complainer. If
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