When someone helps you, expressing gratitude is not only polite but crucial for strengthening the connection and fostering mutual understanding. And it increases the likelihood that they will help you again. Let’s break down how to thank them using the principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC): (These are the elements to include, but you can change […]
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The way we ask for help can significantly impact whether and how we receive assistance, as well as the quality of our relationships. When we approach others with empathy and clarity, stating our needs without judgment, it fosters a sense of cooperation, mutual respect, and understanding. The NVC (Non Violent Communication) model in asking for
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Feeling overwhelmed? Remember, it’s okay to ask for help. Here’s how: Don’t wait until you are overwhelmed or frantic (and possibly cranky). Ask early; this makes it easier for you to ask kindly and it is easier for the other person to be able to help you. Be clear about what help you need. Communicate
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Finding it hard to ask for help? You’re not alone. But here’s the thing – that reluctance to reach out can make dealing with the stress or task more difficult for you. And can also lead to isolation and even resentment. It may be worthwhile to reflect on why it’s so hard for you to
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When your spouse brings up concerns or requests for change, how you respond can impact the issue at hand. And even more so, your whole relationship. These are ways that some people respond that is not helpful to the issue and definitely to the relationship. Don’t respond in these ways. ➡️ Don’t Invalidate: Don’t belittle
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When your spouse brings up concerns or requests for change, how you respond can impact the issue at hand. And even more so, your whole relationship. These are ways that some people respond that is not helpful to the issue and definitely to the relationship. Don’t respond in these ways. ➡️ Don’t Stonewall: Don’t shut
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When your spouse brings up concerns or requests for change, how you respond can impact the issue at hand. And even more so, your whole relationship. These are ways that some people respond that is not helpful to the issue and definitely to the relationship. Don’t respond in these ways. ➡️ Don’t Become Defensive: Don’t
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❗When your spouse brings up concerns or requests for change, how you respond can impact the issue at hand. And even more so, your whole relationship. While it might be difficult to hear their message or wish it was communicated differently, it’s the substance of what they’re saying that matters – more than how it’s
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In challenging times, people react based on their unique blend of fears, interests, responsibilities, and experiences (FIRE). Recognize that everyone copes differently, and that’s perfectly fine. The key is to validate and empathize with their perspective rather than judging or belittling them. Let them have their own reactions. Have conversations – without judgment but with
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When you have something important to ask of someone, it’s essential to stick to one clear and concise point and avoid “detail overload”. Providing excessive information can overwhelm the other person, causing them to miss or misunderstand the central message. The main point may get lost in the noise, diluting the urgency of your ask.
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