In any relationship, differences of perspectives are inevitable due to each person’s unique set of values that they hold dear. For instance, one spouse may prioritize feeding the family only healthy foods for their well-being, while the other cherishes the freedom to explore diverse cuisines and savor life’s pleasures. Both values are valid and deserve […]
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🎯Genuine concern is rooted in love and care, aimed at supporting and uplifting others. 🎯Concern-shaming disguises criticism as genuine concern, fueled by a desire to feel superior and put others down. Concern-shaming is like turning compassion into a weapon, making people feel guilty or inadequate for their choices. Unsolicited advice and judgment, especially from someone
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There’s a nuanced difference between a boundary and an ultimatum. The distinction largely hinges on our tone, intention, and mindset when delivering our message. 🎯A boundary is about establishing our personal limits. 🎯 An ultimatum is more about trying to control someone else’s actions. When we set a boundary, we focus on expressing our needs
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Requests and boundaries are vital tools in expressing our needs and setting limits within relationships. 🎯Requests involve asking someone to change their behavior to meet our needs. It’s essential to recognize that whether they comply or not is ultimately beyond our control; requests are fundamentally unenforceable. “Please speak to me more calmly?” 🎯Setting boundaries involves
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Asking for what we want or need is an essential aspect of effective communication and building healthy relationships. By making a request, we provide the other person with the opportunity to understand our needs and potentially meet them. It’s like extending an invitation for them to consider our perspective and take action accordingly. F 💬”Would
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When we find ourselves in a situation where we’re not vibing with what someone is saying or doing, instead of jumping to conclusions or getting all defensive, approach it with curiosity. Genuine curiosity. Not trying to find the flaw in their viewpoint or how you can convince them to your way. Just trying to understand.
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There will be times when you and your spouse have different perspectives about things; there’s a paradox. It may be tricky to resolve, but there is a way to manage it. Using a ‘paradox question’ can help you come up with creative solutions that address both of your concerns. “How can we do X while
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It can be super tough to hear your partner out during a difficult conversation without cutting in, but it’s worth it. Let your partner get their points across without interrupting. You might have to bite your tongue, but just listening instead of arguing can help you both get on the same page. When your spouse
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When we vent, some of our negative emotions does add to the other person’s mental burden. So, before you dump, ask if they are in the right headspace for your venting. Give them the option to say that they are not able to listen just now. “Do you have a few minutes to help me
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If your partner is upset or quiet or down, don’t assume you know why. So often, assumptions are based on your own perspectives, not facts.If you’re upset or quiet or down, don’t assume your spouse knows why. No matter how connected you both may be, you’re not mind-readers.As soon as you assume that you understand
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