Comparing ourselves to others is part of our human nature. There is a positive side to it too; it can be helpful in motivating us to stretch and improve ourselves. Yet, all too often, it leaves us feeling badly about ourselves. To compare usually ends up in despair. There will always be someone who is […]
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Happiness is our natural state. Children are born happy. Somewhere along our years, we lose some of that. The happiness is still there – in our soul – albeit covered with worries and concerns. An important way to uncover that natural happiness is by being other-focused and less self-focused. By doing for others, you get
Paddle boarding – a metaphor for life. You can’t just wait for the waves to be calm before you stand up. It’s actually the paddling that keeps you on the board. It’s the forward motion that gives you the stability you need. Sometimes you just have to pick a direction and start pulling that paddle
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People are either thermostats or thermometers. They either simply reflect the climate around them – like a thermometer. Or they set the climate around them – like a thermostat. Do you set the emotional tone in your life, in your family, in your marriage? Do you influence, or are you influenced? To be more of
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Thinking and planning may be helpful. But it is action that counts. You don’t have to pre-plan or envision exactly how it will all work out. Just get started. Do you find yourself in the ‘thinking loop’ (also known as ‘overthinking’)? Take a few steps toward your goal. Tell yourself that you can always go
Your schedule is packed and somehow you are not getting to do the things you rally want. Is it time management, or is it priority management? You have to be intentional with your time and align your schedule with your values. Get clear with what is most important to you. Think in areas of work,
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You know you want to improve in some area. Or, at least you know that you don’t want whatever it is to continue in the way that it is. You can’t just say that you won’t get stressed over small things. You MUST have a plan of what you will do when a stressor comes
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When you know your ‘why’, the ‘how’ is easier to do. When you first identify your values (or standards) that you want to live by, it is easier to see what action steps you need to take to get there. Additionally, because your action steps are based on values you want in, and for, your
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All nights of Chanukah, some of the lights are lit and some are not yet. This is potentiality. On the last night of Chanukah, all 8 lights are lit. This is actuality. Every night of Chanukah, we added one more light. Moving through the phases of potentiality to actuality. In our physical world, actuality is
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On Shabbos Chanukah, we light both the Shabbos candles and the Chanukah candles. Traditionally, the Shabbos candles are lit by the woman of the house and the Menorah by the man. Kabbalistically, the woman symbolizes the feminine energy of internal focus, and the man represents the external. By lighting the Shabbos candles, the woman brings
This Chanukah, increase the light in your relationships. Read More »
