Chanukah Menorah flames. Light. What do you do that brings light to your family? To those around you? What is one thing you can do to further enhance that? Chanukah Menorah flames. Warmth. What do you do that warms your family? To those around you? What is one thing you can do to further enhance […]
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The shamash lights the other candles without diminishing itself. Rather, it is even more lit up when surrounded by the flames it has been part of lighting. The more light we give to others, the more light is reflected back to us. Kindness has a way of boomeranging and coming back at you. Good moods
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Light is a metaphor for hope. A tiny flame can banish darkness, just as hope can banish despair. While things may seem to be at some level of darkness or difficulty, it takes just a small flame of goodness to bring light to the situation. A kind word. An act of ‘beyond yourself’. A gesture
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The situation may not be good*. You have a choice. Be a victim and be defined by what has happened. Or, you can take the life lesson that Hashem is sending through the situation. See it as an opportunity for personal growth. Maybe you need to learn assertiveness, or to be more careful with your
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Attempts to make your partner change invite defensiveness. That strategy will get you nowhere. Think about it: when was the last time your spouse made meaningful change just because you nagged them. Instead, use your energy to figure out what you want and then what you yourself might do differently to get it. New mindsets.
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Every couple has disagreements or fights – sometimes. If you did have a fight and then found a way to smooth things over without truly feeling a deeper sense of understanding about yourself, your relationship and your spouse, you’ve wasted a perfect opportunity for growth. Reflect about what might really have been going on for
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Some of our biggest growth and learnings come after discomfort. At one point, you had a different way of looking at things or you didn’t know how to do something. And then a new way of understanding or doing things presented itself. If you didn’t invite that change, you may be uncomfortable with it. Nonetheless,
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Don’t even think disparagingly about yourself. Your thoughts come out in your words and body language. If you think and speak poorly about yourself – no matter the reason – you will begin to believe yourself. Into a downward spiral. You won’t like being around yourself. And frankly, most other people won’t either. People like
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‘Disqualifying the positive’ is when someone recognizes only negative aspects of a situation while ignoring the positive. It sounds something like: “Yes, but…” or “That doesn’t really count because…” or “They only did that because …” — “It’s true that they gave me a gift, but they only gave it to me because someone reminded
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If you don’t love yourself, you aren’t really in a frame of mind to love others. It’s really that simple. You have to love yourself before you can give of yourself to someone else. So just start doing little things of self-love*. Right now; do not wait until you think you “deserve” it. (*For clarity:
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