We are always more cautious when the risk is new. As time moves along, the risk seems less scary and the vigilance gets in the way of regular life. We grow tired of that stress and we want to reassert a sense of personal control. This all might lead to a lessening of personal motivation […]
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When you try to correct your spouse (or suggest a change), you are using up some of those goodwill credits in your relationship. Even if you say it with love and concern only for them. Nobody likes to be called out on their mistakes or failures, or even more so, on things they really can’t
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Counterproductive thoughts are ones that distract you from your task and drain your motivation. It happens from time to time. The skill of Real-Time Resilience (RTR) is designed to obliterate these counterproductive thoughts to get back in the game. RTR can help you lower anxiety, anger, or other strong emotions enough so that one can
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Cruising along, hitting on all cylinders – and then – bang! “Detour. Road closed ahead.” This makes the trip different than expected, maybe even a bit longer. At the same time, it is also an opportunity to go through an area you may not have otherwise. You might see some new country scenery. You might
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Thought you might find this little factoid interesting on this fast day. All mental activity (i.e. thinking) requires energy, which is measured by calories. Studies posit that hard thinking can increase that caloric expenditure by 25%. Arguing is a mental activity – all that thinking of how and what to say. It also increases your
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Has your life become off-balanced? You feel burned out? Your to-do list soooooooooo long? You stopped even dreaming about vacation? You never get to do anything that you enjoy – not even for a few minutes? Take action today to bring a greater sense of balance to all the areas of your life. 1. Define
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Our lives are busier than ever. All too often, we are on auto-pilot and days and months just fly by. We are missing our lives. In some areas, we are just too guarded to allow ourselves to fully experience what is going on. We miss out on big chunks of our lives. In other areas,
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It is just too hard for most of us to make major changes. We would work better by making tiny microgoals that are achievable. Start off with a very small microgoal whose bar is very very low. Something you know you can actually do. In this way, you check off the box in the short-term
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Savoring means that we attempt to fully feel, enjoy, and extend our positive experiences. This is a great way to develop a long-lasting stream of positive thoughts and emotions. This can be especially helpful during the tough times of life. Try to capture the event with all your senses: what you are seeing, smelling, hearing,
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Thought loop: No matter what you do, you seemingly can’t stop your mind from thinking of the stuck thought over and over again. This is also called rumination. Thought loops can happen to anyone. It is important to break out of them as quickly as possible before they take over and add stress to your
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