You know you want to improve in some area. Or, at least you know that you don’t want whatever it is to continue in the way that it is. You can’t just say that you won’t get stressed over small things. You MUST have a plan of what you will do when a stressor comes […]
Goals? Resolutions? “What I will do” vs “What I will not do anymore” Read More »
When you know your ‘why’, the ‘how’ is easier to do. When you first identify your values (or standards) that you want to live by, it is easier to see what action steps you need to take to get there. Additionally, because your action steps are based on values you want in, and for, your
Goals? Resolutions? Plan action steps based on your values. Read More »
Circular argument: “You are never home so I end up going out to dinner and shopping with friends.” –> “I work late to pay for all those things you buy.” –> “I wouldn’t go out so much if you were home.” Round and round… There are several separate issues being touched on in this conversation.
Stop the downward spiral of circular arguments. Read More »
All nights of Chanukah, some of the lights are lit and some are not yet. This is potentiality. On the last night of Chanukah, all 8 lights are lit. This is actuality. Every night of Chanukah, we added one more light. Moving through the phases of potentiality to actuality. In our physical world, actuality is
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On Shabbos Chanukah, we light both the Shabbos candles and the Chanukah candles. Traditionally, the Shabbos candles are lit by the woman of the house and the Menorah by the man. Kabbalistically, the woman symbolizes the feminine energy of internal focus, and the man represents the external. By lighting the Shabbos candles, the woman brings
This Chanukah, increase the light in your relationships. Read More »
Chanukah Menorah flames. Light. What do you do that brings light to your family? To those around you? What is one thing you can do to further enhance that? Chanukah Menorah flames. Warmth. What do you do that warms your family? To those around you? What is one thing you can do to further enhance
What kind of light do you emit? Read More »
The shamash lights the other candles without diminishing itself. Rather, it is even more lit up when surrounded by the flames it has been part of lighting. The more light we give to others, the more light is reflected back to us. Kindness has a way of boomeranging and coming back at you. Good moods
The more light you give to others, the more light is reflected to you. Read More »
Some have a family tradition of giving gifts to the kids on Chanukah. While that isn’t what Chanukah is all about per se, it does add a level of playfulness and fun. As you contemplate on what you want to give the children this Chanukah, you might also reflect on what Chanukah is about. The
Light is a metaphor for hope. A tiny flame can banish darkness, just as hope can banish despair. While things may seem to be at some level of darkness or difficulty, it takes just a small flame of goodness to bring light to the situation. A kind word. An act of ‘beyond yourself’. A gesture
A flame is like hope; they both dispel darkness. Read More »
“Just” is one of those words that is meant to minimize what you’re saying. Depending on the context it can come across as condescending “Just so you know” or invalidating “It will take just a minute of your time” or unconfident “I was just wondering…”. Find better ways to say what you want to get
What not to say “Just …” Read More »
