Chesed is looking for ways to make your spouse happy. Ask yourself: “What can I do today to make my partner happy?” And do it. Do something that your spouse will never know about. Do it just because you love and care about your spouse. Not for reciprocation or out of guilt or obligation. Just […]
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Chesed is loving your spouse in the way they prefer even if you don’t understand it. Hallmark, jewelers, chocolatiers and thousands of other marketers are telling us what gifts we ought to be wanting and giving to show our love. But those may not be what your spouse wants at all. Your spouse is unique
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Chesed is giving undivided attention. Chesed can be expressed through the act of giving undivided attention. When we give our full attention to someone, we show them that we value and respect them. This involves setting aside our own distractions, priorities, and preoccupations and focusing solely on the person in front of us. Real attention
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Literal definition: Kindness. (Loving Kindness). In other words: Nurturing. Giving. Warmth. Providing someone’s needs. Loving. Expressions of Chesed: Chesed is loving-kindness. Chesed is all about acts of kindness that come from a place of genuine love. It involves nurturing, giving, providing for someone’s needs, and showing warmth and love. These acts can take many different
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You’ve put in the effort to organize and get rid of things that don’t serve you well. From hereon, be selective about what you bring into your life. Choose wisely. Don’t let your clean home become a mess again. Shop in quality places that reflect the vibe you want for your home. Try things out
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Take inventory of the stuff in your home. Reflect: Does it bring you joy? Does it make your life better? When you brought it into your life, it may have served a purpose. But if it doesn’t anymore, get rid of it. Over the years, you may have picked up defense mechanisms, habits, attitudes, or
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Don’t forget to celebrate small wins along the way. The small win is an accomplishment that you weren’t entirely confident you could achieve, like cleaning out a closet or clearing out some clutter. Each small victory you achieve adds up to significant progress. Step by step, you’re making a difference in your home and your
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Ignoring the mess doesn’t make it less of a mess. Neither does denial. Neither does wishing it away or hoping that someone else will take care of it. It doesn’t just get clean by itself. (‘Just point and junk disappears’ is just a marketing ploy from a junk removal company.) It may seem overwhelming. But
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Sometimes the project is so big, we don’t know what steps to take to get us there. The goal can seem overwhelming; we may feel we don’t have the know-how, time or the resources. Or we don’t see what steps we can take to get ourselves there. Oftentimes, this is because we set unrealistic expectations
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Don’t compare your home/life to anyone else’s. Everyone has at least a small messy drawer somewhere. But you may not see it and they probably are not going to share it publicly. Similarly, in your marriage and relationships, comparing yourself to others can be a recipe for frustration and disappointment. Instead, focus on your own
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