When your buttons are pushed, you can have a very strong emotional reaction, such as anger, irritation, or exasperation. But, there’s a better way to respond. If you admit it, you probably have a few hot buttons to which you are sensitive. Think about just one of those. Who and what tends to push it? […]
A better way to respond when your buttons are pushed. Read More »
This is usually said in a dismissive tone as a way to avoid talking about something uncomfortable. Dropping a conversation midway diminishes the importance of the relationship and makes the other feel irrelevant and unheard.
Words to Avoid: “Nevermind, I’ll do it myself.” Read More »
You will have conflicts from time to time. You will see things differently from others. It isn’t about having the other person see things in your way, or bringing them over to your way. Rather, good, healthy disagreement leads to eye-opening discussions, growth, and potentially more closeness. In a healthy disagreement, people learn, explore,
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If you want to change something in your life, stop labeling yourself with a label that perpetuates the cycle you’re trying to break. Stop thoughts such as “I’m a procrastinator”, “I’m a perfectionist”, “I’m not a morning person”. Acknowledging habits or preferences that aren’t serving us is a really important first step in change. But
Stop labeling yourself. Read More »
3 Conversations you might have this week What is something you look forward to this Pesach? What is something you are anxious about? What do you think about before you fall asleep? What are some chol hamoed memories from your childhood? Which would you like to incorporate in your family? 2 Quotes to inspire you
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Does this ever happen to you? Your spouse/friend does something nice and you come up with all sorts of explanations about their intentions. How we attribute others’ behavior can make a huge difference. Your spouse gives you a lovely little gift one random day. You wonder what is the reason. There are so many ways
Positive attributions: Key for life satisfaction. Read More »
So much of how we think about things is our own interpretation or explanation of what happened. We are trying to make sense of what happened. Our approach to making these attributions in our marriage influences how we feel about that the relationship, and ultimately impacts our words and interactions. Whatever happened is a fact.
Assume good intention. Read More »
Most people want to be understood and validated. It helps us feel loved. Once we feel understood, we are open, happier, and more willing to listen to the ideas and perspectives of others. Validating another person might sound like, “I understand you felt that way, it makes sense to me”, or “That must have been
Words to Use: “I understand you.” Read More »
Give your thoughts a name. So often, unhelpful thoughts (or stories) flit through our minds. Usually, the same ones over and over again. These thoughts can easily pull us into worrying, ruminating or ‘analysis paralysis’. While it may be natural to have these thoughts, they can be debilitating. Don’t take your thoughts too seriously. Name
Give your thoughts a name, and then dismiss them. Read More »
3 Conversations you might have this week What is a fact that was hard for you to accept? What makes a day great? What is the best gift you’ve ever given or received? 2 Quotes to inspire you 1.“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” – Les
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