Sometimes when we have a big challenge that needs us to do some hard work to resolve, we tend to stay stuck by ruminating, worrying, fantasizing, plotting revenge, or some other type of unworkable behavior that doesn’t resolve the issue at all. So why do we do this? We do things for the payoff, something […]
Want to overcome a bad habit? Think of the payoffs and tradeoffs. Read More »
Think of a conflict from the perspective of a neutral third party who wants the best for all involved. How might this person think about the disagreement? How might they find the good that could be in the situation? This is not always so easy to do in the moment of disagreement. It is worthwhile
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We make things seem insurmountable and then make excuses to not have to address the issue. This is a cop-out. We make excuses to protect ourselves from feelings of failure and fear. They help us to avoid unpleasant situations and mask our perceived shortcomings. Excuses are ways to get out of owning up to something.
Words to Avoid: “I can’t because…” Read More »
Too often, we expect that others will treat us in a certain way, and then set ourselves up for disappointment when our expectations aren’t met. We assume that most people think and behave similarly to us. So, if we are the kind of person who gives little random gifts, we expect the same to be
We set ourselves up for disappointment when we expect others to behave as we would. Read More »
Whatever your dilemma, you’re already making a choice. There’s actually no way not to choose. Each day you continue doing what you are doing, you are choosing not to do something new. Each day that you don’t quit your job that is life-sucking, you are choosing to stay. Until you seek the right support, you
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3 Conversations you might have this week How close are you to being who you want to be? What song always makes you happy? Which historical event do you wish you could have seen with your own eyes? 2 Quotes to inspire you 1. “A mirror shows what we look like – not who we
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There’s lots happening on Purim – places to be, things to do, messes to clean, and whatever else. It takes coordination and planning to get it all done with the least stress. And a good attitude when things still don’t work according to plan. Talk it out. Plan who does what and when. Get it
Work together to create a realistic plan for Purim. Read More »
Purim is a time for family memories. Whether you intentionally set out to create memories or not, people will remember the holidays. Maybe not every detail, but definitely the vibe. What memories are you creating? Happy and joyful? Stressed? Giving and generous? Drunkenness? Family time? Plan your Purim to create meaningful and happy memories.
What kind of Purim memories will you be creating this Purim? Read More »
Studies show that such sharing is good for both – beyond the effect of the event itself. It is linked to greater feelings of trust, intimacy and satisfaction in the relationship. The effect is even more pronounced when the listener celebrates enthusiastically and doesn’t focus on the potential concerns. “They love my work and want
Share your highlights and good news. Allow your spouse to celebrate with you. Read More »
