“Clarity about what matters provides clarity about what does not.” ― Cal Newport Identify what matters to you individually, as a couple, as a family. Write down your passion statements. What really matters to you? What do you really want to do, and why do you really want to do it? What about that is […]
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Speak positively about your marriage. Often. Very often. To each other, to others, in public (appropriately). What we praise grows. Praise the time you’ve been together so far. Praise the life and home you have built together. Praise the tough times you’ve overcome together. The easy times. The happy times. Praise how your differences work
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3 Conversations you might have this week If there were 26 hours in a day, what would you do more of? Have you ever had a deep conversation with a perfect stranger? What was the topic? Can you follow Ikea instructions? 2 Quotes to inspire you “Though no one can go back and make a
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Clarity determines the quality of your response to a situation. But too often in a stressful situation, we develop some sort of brain fog that impedes us from seeing the fullness of the situation and the possibilities and the long-term outcomes of knee-jerk reactions. It is hard to gain perspective when you are stressed. First,
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Suppressing or withholding what is on your mind is counter to intimacy. It may be hard or uncomfortable to talk about it, but you probably should. If you say it with respect and tact, your spouse can probably handle the truth. If suppressing has become a pattern in your relationship, you can – and ought
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Don’t ever assume you know a person or a situation completely. There’s always something new to learn. You might start the conversation with “I’m confused about something, and I’m wondering if you can help me understand it better.” And then listen with genuine curiosity.
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Being on the receiving end of a compliment can feel downright uncomfortable for many. So, we might reject it, dismiss it, deny it, downplay it, change the subject altogether, or simply shut it down. But that discounts the giver of the compliment. Saying “thank you” to a compliment doesn’t just acknowledge their kindness, thoughtfulness, effort,
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When someone is angry, frustrated or worried, your instinctual and intuitive reaction may be to try to calm them down, urge them to cool off, suggest it’s not worth getting so upset about. And sometimes that may work. It is even better to allow them to vent and get it all out. When someone is
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3 Conversations you might have this week What’s the most controversial opinion you have? What’s the weirdest thing you loved as a child? What is the stupidest joke you’ve ever heard? 2 Quotes to inspire you “Friendship isn’t a big thing – it is a million little things.” “Whoever is happy will make others happy
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Sometimes, your spouse just needs to unwind alone – in the comfort and quiet of their own space, on their own terms. It doesn’t necessarily say anything about the relationship. Plan to leave the house. Go out with friends. Do your errands. Take an exercise walk. Take the kids out for a few hours. Give
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