If you are not getting the outcomes you want (or hope for), maybe it’s something you are doing (or not doing). Get to know your patterns that are not getting you the outcomes you are hoping for and take tiny steps to change those. If you don’t ask for what you want and instead hint, […]
Not getting what you want? Maybe it’s you. Read More »
If what you have been doing is working anymore (or it never really worked in the first place), let it go. This applies to the way you’ve been trying to make your spouse change, nagging, food choices, budget plans, and so many other things. Do something different, anything different. Try something new. You may not
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The 5 Second Rule (developed by Mel Robbins): The moment you feel yourself hesitate on something you know you should do, count 5-4-3-2-1 and then just do it. The premise is that if you don’t move in the first five seconds, your mental habits of overthinking, doubt and fear will take over. Those thoughts then
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Complaining never made anything better. Everyone has things in their lives that they wish were different (or better). But simply complaining for complaining’s sake doesn’t bring change. That’s whining. (Venting is different and should be done judiciously and with intention.) Complaining brings down the mood of everyone in the conversation – especially the complainer. If
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Sometimes when you are in a situation it can be very difficult for you to see the whole picture. You only see your part. However, if you choose instead to see the drama unfold from the balcony view up high, you will be able to not only understand what is going on in front of
The Balcony Perspective: Getting the fuller picture. Read More »
Every successful habit is built with some failures along the way. When starting something new, you won’t get it right every time. Like a baby taking their first steps. But don’t give up after those first clumsy, awkward attempts or failures. Our success at adopting a new habit depends on our willingness to be bad
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“Clarity about what matters provides clarity about what does not.” ― Cal Newport Identify what matters to you individually, as a couple, as a family. Write down your passion statements. What really matters to you? What do you really want to do, and why do you really want to do it? What about that is
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Clarity determines the quality of your response to a situation. But too often in a stressful situation, we develop some sort of brain fog that impedes us from seeing the fullness of the situation and the possibilities and the long-term outcomes of knee-jerk reactions. It is hard to gain perspective when you are stressed. First,
How clearly we see determines how effectively we act in any situation. Read More »
Suppressing or withholding what is on your mind is counter to intimacy. It may be hard or uncomfortable to talk about it, but you probably should. If you say it with respect and tact, your spouse can probably handle the truth. If suppressing has become a pattern in your relationship, you can – and ought
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Being on the receiving end of a compliment can feel downright uncomfortable for many. So, we might reject it, dismiss it, deny it, downplay it, change the subject altogether, or simply shut it down. But that discounts the giver of the compliment. Saying “thank you” to a compliment doesn’t just acknowledge their kindness, thoughtfulness, effort,
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