Every choice you make is like a seesaw; when you say “yes” to one thing, you are saying “no” to another. For example, if you are saying ‘yes’ to helping someone, you are saying ‘no’ to using that time for yourself. If you are saying ‘yes’ to working more hours, you are saying ‘no’ to […]
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You’re human. You are going to say or do the wrong thing. Or do something stupid. Sometimes. Often. Apologize. And set things straight. It’s like pressing the RESET button. “I was wrong. You were right. I’m sorry. Let’s try it again.” Even if your spouse doesn’t ask. Press the Reset button anyway. Forgive.
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A strong, healthy marriage includes love, respect, friendship, acceptance, and … The last crucial ingredient is a willingness to put in the effort. – SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE = ACCEPTANCE + EFFORT – Partners need to accept each other lovingly in many ways. However, acceptance is only half the formula of what makes a loving, solid, life-long,
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Many mistakenly believe that they will be happy once they reach a certain success. It actually works the other way. When we are happy, success comes more easily. When people feel happy, they tend to feel confident, optimistic, and energetic and others find them likable and sociable. Additionally, happy people frequently experience positive moods and
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Don’t wait until your marriage runs out of gas and you need to call in for emergency help. Be proactive. Keep your marriage fueled. Do for each other. Laugh together. Compliment each other. It’s the small things.
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Keep your personal power. Saying “YOU MAKE ME FEEL” indicates that you believe that feelings are inevitable responses to what someone has done to you. You are giving your personal power away to someone else. And, you are likely to antagonize your spouse, since it indicates blame. — So why do people say that? Why
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No one likes to hear complaints; they give most people a downer feeling. Instead of complaining, request. Requests establish a positive tone and invite helpful responses and solutions. – Complaint: “I hate …” Complaint: “Why do we always …” Complaint: “I don’t like that ….” Complaint: “It bugs me when …” – Request: “How about
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As a human being, you have some shortcomings. We all do. No one is perfect. Some of our flaws are the mirror image of our strengths. If you are super organized; you might be less flexible. If you are industrious and always accomplishing, you may not allow yourself time to relax with your family. Some
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Reflect about what is working well in your marriage. What is it that you are doing when your spouse is acting loving and considerate? Do more of that. – What are you doing that pushes his buttons. Or, what is it that you nag about? Just stop doing that. Either let it go, or experiment
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