Sometimes, we don’t understand our own thoughts or motivations. It is worth digging deeper by asking powerful questions – one layer at a time to get to the crux of the issue. Good questions can open up an awareness that you might not have realized. Questions challenge a different part of our brain bringing about a different […]
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If you consistently avoid discomfort, you are restricting yourself to a rather small comfort zone. And you’ll miss out on so much of life. It is doing things that are difficult that helps us grow. Comfort doesn’t. If you want to achieve great things, you have to be in the discomfort zone sometimes. If you
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Change means that you are letting go of something and getting into something new. And that can bring lots of big emotions. All at once. Happiness. Loss. Excitement. Satisfaction. Grief. Courage. Adventure. And many emotions about not knowing how the future will play out. Anxiety. Vulnerability. Worry. Fear. Recognize that change is hard. New is
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You need more than positive thinking to actually make the change you wish for your life. You need to WOOP it. WOOP is a science-based mental strategy that people can use to find and fulfill their wishes, set preferences, and change their habits. W = Wish. Name your wish. O = Outcome. What would be
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Use the Mood Meter as a guide about your emotions. Use the RULER acronym to help you access and work with your mood. R – Recognize. Where are you on the Mood Meter? U- Understand. What caused you to feel this way? L – Label. What word best describes your feeling? E – Express. How
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You’re the only thing standing in your own way. People often self-sabotage if they’re not mindful, wise, and willing. People invite problems into their lives through their own poor choices, apathy, indecision, arrogance, anxiety, selfishness, and other traits they would rather not discuss. Choose today to fight against who you once were (or are) and become who
Practice seeing life with a beginner’s mind; see things with an open mind and fresh eyes – just like a beginner. With curiosity. With openness to new possibilities. That means dropping prejudgments, expectations, and preconceived ideas. That is letting go of what you think you know about the subject. It’s about being curious and wondering,
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We all have blind spots — aspects of our personalities that we don’t know exist. And they affect our performance, our success and our relationships. But since we don’t know them, we can’t work on them. Proactively ask your spouse to point them out. Maybe ask for just one at a time. “What is one
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A growth area is something that you ought to work on to live your best self – as an individual and in the coupleship. We all have areas in which we should grow. And growing is a life-long endeavor. Throughout our lives, we should always be growing and improving. • As humans, we have blindspots
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We know we ought to make the change (eat better, exercise, learn our spouse’s preferred way of being addressed), but we just don’t do it. Why? Change is hard because it’s always easier to stay where you are. That is inertia. The law of inertia states: A body at rest tends to remain at rest.
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