Does your spouse wash the dishes in the wrong way? Do they know that? There really is no one right way to wash the dishes. It just might be that you have different ideas about how and when to wash the dishes. Neither of you is right or wrong; it’s your expectation that is the […]
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Many times, what we are fighting about is not really what is bothering us. The words in our fighting or bickering may be about the dishes in the sink or the bill that wasn’t paid. Often, there is an underlying emotion – like insecurity or fear or sadness. It is important to talk about the
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There is a real distinction between merely hearing the words and really listening for the message. Unlike ‘hearing’ what the speaker is saying, listening requires our full concentration which involves using all of our senses on what exactly is being said. The words they are saying are not telling the whole story. When you tune
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Misunderstandings, hurt feelings, anger, frustration, sadness….so many of these negative emotions all stem from the fact that two people don’t talk to each other about things. By not talking it through, you aren’t giving the other person a chance to share what is going on for them, what support they need, their fears, their intentions.
We talk about effective mindsets for staying connected with your husband through the busyness, joys and stress of Pesach.
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Sara Gita Soble shares 5 secrets of effective communication for marriage.
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There’s lots happening on Purim – places to be, things to do, messes to clean, and whatever else. It takes coordination and planning to get it all done with the least stress. And a good attitude when things still don’t work according to plan. Talk it out. Plan who does what and when. Get it
Work together to create a realistic plan for Purim. Read More »
Disagreements are inevitable. But, there’s definitely a wrong way and a right way to present your own arguments.–Focus on facts and don’t make it personal. A respectful disagreement is one that prioritizes logic over your opinions and emotions about the situation. Staying to facts makes it clear that it isn’t personal. Focus on illustrating why
You don’t have to agree on everything, but you have to be respectful. Read More »
Certain words can send us back to moments in our past that were hurtful and upsetting – highlighting some old insecurities. When you know what triggers you, you can be better prepared to recognize that those words are loaded for you and that it isn’t so much about what was just said. That alone can
Words can be time machines to the past. Read More »
People-pleasing is a way of trying to control our environments and other people. We are trying to get a certain outcome by doing something (or avoiding something). In other words, we are trying to manipulate the situation. When we are people-pleasing*, we are not sharing our authentic self, we are not giving feedback to the
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