Active Listening is a form of listening and reflecting back what you’ve heard that can deepen the bond, the trust, the understanding and the mutual respect in relationships. Reflecting back what you’ve heard uncovers misunderstandings earlier. The listener can then reflect back by paraphrasing in their own words what they think they’ve understood and then […]
Active listening: Giving your full attention to the other. Read More »
“Do not appease someone when his anger is aroused.” Avos 4:18
There is a time for silence and a time to talk Read More »
The word BUT negates all the goodwill that you are building up with the first part of your sentence. The BUT gets someone’s defenses up, and makes them way less able to hear the important thing you want them to listen to. Instead, using the words AT THE SAME TIME or AND can be much
Replace the word “But” with “At the same time” Read More »
An acknowledgment is a positive comment that focuses on who the person is. It acknowledges the unique individual they are underneath all the talents, skills and facade. — “You are so dedicated to the children you work with.” “Your passion for the work you do comes out in how you …” “You care so much
Acknowledgment: A positive comment that focuses on who the person is Read More »
BASIC I STATEMENT: I feel ___ when ____ ex: I feel worried when I think that you’ll be home for dinner and you aren’t here for hours and I don’t hear from you. – I FEEL Avoid words that may seem like emotions, but really imply the action of your partner: “I feel…ignored, annoyed, mistreated,
Use “I statements”. Avoid “You statements” of blame and accusation Read More »
When you describe your feelings, do you use clarifying words to make them understood. “I’m sad and tearful” …” I feel a yearning to be closer” …”I’m feeling rather hurt and withdrawn” …”I’m stunned and embarrassed”. Notice that the description directly identifies the emotion. Attacking with your feelings means using your affect as a weapon.
Describe your feelings rather than attack with them. Read More »
Lisa Twerski, LCSW shares some important mindsets and tools for effective communication for everyday conversations and those harder ones.
Good Communication is Key Read More »
Approaching one spouse’s day off from mindset of partnership.
Perspectives about Benny’s day off Read More »
Rabbi Pinney & Rebetzin Helana Herman present about “Turning Conflict into Connection”, including mindsets and tools to build stronger relationships. Based on the Imago principles integrated with chasidus.
From Conflict to Connection Read More »
