Negativity has a sneaky way of creeping into our relationships, often unnoticed at first. It starts with small complaints or irritations but can grow into a habit of only seeing what’s missing or what’s wrong with our partner or the relationship. This constant focus on the negative creates a rift, making it hard to appreciate […]
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“Fill your life with experiences, not things. Have stories to tell, not stuff to show.” This quote captures the essence of living a fulfilling life. Numerous studies have shown that experiences bring us closer to others, provide long-lasting satisfaction, and shape our sense of identity in a profound way. When we pursue experiences for the
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The key to feeling good is to decide to stop feeling bad. Not easy, but that simple. It’s a decision you can make. Things happen in our lives. It may seem that those circumstances inform our emotions. Really, those circumstances are neutral. They exist outside us; they do not define who we are and how
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Our minds have very little control over this world. Our mind can’t control the weather, other people, places and the things around us. When we worry, we are in a sense asking our mind to manipulate the world to make things go as we wish. But the mind just can’t do that. We worry and
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Our lives need a healthy balance of ‘doing’ and ‘being’. Of course, there are lots of things we must ‘do’ – take care of the house and family, sleep, eat, work and so many other things. Long to-do lists where what counts is the outcome. But we must also make time to ‘be’. These are
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Of course, you and your spouse should have a deep friendship with each other. Additionally, you each should have friends besides each other – in a healthy balance. After spending some time with friends, we can come back to the relationship feeling fulfilled and energized. Make time for your friends. Allow time for your spouse’s
It’s important to have friends when you’re married. Read More »
Talk about your spouse’s wonderful character or good work to others. Tell them how much you appreciate your spouse. Firstly, your spouse will look good in front of those other people. And, it keeps you in a positive frame of mind about your spouse and your relationship. This strengthens your experience of your relationship. Your
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When you say words of affirmation in your relationship, you are strengthening communication and intimacy between you and your partner. You are showing them that you notice and appreciate them. When your partner feels appreciated, they are likely to experience a deeper satisfaction with themselves and with the relationship. Everyone appreciates words of affirmation – even if
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Saying “no” to certain things will allow you to say “yes” to those things you know are worth your time. And when you have been consistently kind to yourself, you are better able to be kind to others. There will be times when you will need to say “no” to someone out of kindness to
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Some people are just nicer and more generous than others. Where do you fit on that spectrum? Did you ever think about why you are the way you are?—Compassionate people treat others with gentleness and respect. Even when the other person may not seem to deserve that. Compassionate people give generously and graciously, with no
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